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Mark Dent's avatar

I sat down face to face with my local federal member and confronted him with the shocking suicide statistics and our governments-both Labor and Liberal's complete indifference to the suffering and death of men.

I asked him what we should call the deaths of over 2000 men a year if 60 or so women lost in DV incidents is branded an epidemic. He shook his head and made appropriate noises before talking about the pendulum swinging too far.

I said I'd heard that rubbish before. What pendulum? When were the deaths of hundreds or thousands of women ever treated with such indifference or not regarded as worthy of discussion let alone steps to stop the deaths ?

I said in spite of any complaints women may have had about life in the 1950's or earlier, they were treated with respect. Men stood when a woman entered a room. Men removed their hats in a woman's presence. Men adjusted their language in the presence of women. Men gave their coats to women on cold nights and ensured they were safe and protected. And of course, men died for women in war, during disasters and protecting them during moments of threat. Men worked their fingers to the bone in often back breaking work to provide for the women in their lives.

This revisionist view of how women were treated is sickening. Women and girls have never been treated in the manner boys and men have been treated these past six decades. Never.

Anyway, He had a female personal assistant who sat in on our chat. When I spoke about male suicide, workplace deaths, homelessness and domestic violence stats being twisted and manipulated to ignore female abuse and neglect as well as murder she was twitching in her seat.

Just before I left, I asked the Minister if he could define the term "gendered violence". I said it seemed to me it just meant any form of violence perpetrated on a woman for whatever reason.

The PA jumped in when the Minister struggled to explain the term and told me she could explain what gendered violence is. She said with great venom, "it's what happened to all those women on October 7th who were raped and murdered." I asked her what term was used to describe the beheadings, stabbings and burning alive of the young and old men. She stared at me in rage but failed to give me one.

It's hopeless. This minister told me if I was a member of his party and spoke the way I was- in other words, demanding we advocate for men who are suffering and spent time focusing on men's issues too, I would be sacked within a month.

We laughed sadly at his honest observation but I told him it was a sick reflection on politics that gendered bigotry ( the hatred of men and boys) is enacted simply because it wins more votes.

I don't have your energy Betinna. I've been fighting my own personal battle against feminists and feminism for nigh on thirty years with the same result time and again.

1.Stonewalling.

2. Admission I am right, but nothing will change.

3. Outright hatred and abuse directed at me.

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Ross Cameron's avatar

I had a "Boris" situation a few years ago and may have posted it on this site back then. I was not on an aircraft, but a children's playground.

Whilst I was pushing my then 3 year old granddaughter on a swing, a little girl of similar same age was looking at me intently for a push on the parallel swing beside. I suggested that she instead asked her mum who was with a group of women, who also had kids in tow, and seated nearby. The mother after some time approached me and said something like, "you look like her own grandpa who gives her swings and "wizzies" and she would not have minded if I gave her a push". I did give my reasons and she told me that she understood and isn't it sad that we are paranoid with stranger danger. I did say to her though that it could be more sad for me if she had been someone who had otherwise complained and I ended up on a Register that may have even prevented me from being in the park in future, even with my own granddaughter! It was also one of those swings that require the child to be lifted up and placed in the seat with a safety chain secured.

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