My ex wife made an anonymous statement to CASA to get my pilots licence cancelled.
I was told by CASA I could FOI the 'aparrently' anonymous complaint but a female CASA lawyer wouldn't allow it's release because it could identify her.
The shit alleged was so severe that the CASA chief medical officer rang me the day after they got the 'anonymous' report.
She said I hung myself.
In actual fact she hung herself in front of me and I was forced to cut her down, revive her and call and ambulance, all because I left her fir 20 years of beatings and I wasn't taking it anymore.
Then she tried to stab me because I didn't let her die.
The police put an order on her but the NQ women's legal service turned the tables on me by giving her a "choose from the list" task of all the usual things men do to women.
Anyway.
The CMO at CASA admitted, yes we get this all the time from ex-wives so I suggest you FOI the original online anonymous statement.
Usually the way—in case I am involved “female registrar” quoted untruthful statements. ie “He left and rented accomodation”. In fact truth was “He left when police served an untruthful ADVO”. “He had an hour to leave, no bye to child he’d cared for for over 9 yrs”. When he finally saw child 5 weeks later child asked “Why did you leave?”
And after I sent her details that I was a victim of DV and the abused at the hands of a violent female who tried to kill me and the police put an order on her, also that I needed the disclosure to stop the ongoing DV.......?
She doubled down even further, and refused to answer any of my requests.
I sent her a final email telling her she was perpetuating the cycle of Domestic Violence.
3 months later my ex wife beat up our own daughter.
Thanks Government sanctioned feminists.........
In any other world (I. E. Private enterprise, heaven forbid any workplace or any home) a person who contributed (MEN) would be nailed to the wall.
A similar situation occurs where allegations of DV are successfully progressed to formal charges, concocted or otherwise.
Individuals then having those charges filed can be denied insurance - from motor vehicle through to Personal Indemnity etc. If your business depends on such cover then you are rendered unable to work in your profession/trade. Depending on the charge it may prevent you from gainful employment you formerly enjoyed for up to 10 years.
It can also mean an "own goal" for the partner who instigates this; Child Support suffers through the booted-from-home and now unemployed ex.
Ross, true a man with Dv charges or conviction in our Kangaroo Courts from false allegations, can see him become unemployable, have difficulty getting any form of insurance or possibly even renting accomodation. Once there is a conviction the damage can’t be undone.
Not to mention the damage psychologically caused when he assumes “friends” will believe the wife. It’s like some of the mud sticks, when the wife is considered to be truthful & is not questioned.
"David" unfortunately will already be labelled as aggressive and controlling by most departments simply for going to great lengths to get justice and not backing down.
The special bond forged between mothers and a child they gave birth to, breast fed and brainwashed in the early years has for too long been used to blackmail and disenfranchise the fathers who are JUST as eager to love and nurture their children.
I spoke to two Muslim women in Bangkok who had been divorced recently because they had not
had any children with their legal husband. It had been a polygamous marriage. Both were divorced after their husband said "At Talaq" three times. The fact that their husband may have been the cause of their infertility did not enter the matter. They were divorced with exactly no
financial support. As you may have guessed they were turned out on to the streets as homeless
and poverty stricken. Both of the women then became prostitutes in order to survive .
Compare that to the so called de facto "marriages"- assumed to be marriages by the Family Court in Australia. In Australia, a de facto relationship is when two adults live together as a couple on a "genuine domestic basis" but are not legally married. This is recognized under federal law and applies to same-sex and opposite-sex couples, with legal implications similar to marriage, particularly for property, financial matters, and parenting arrangements - if the relationship ends. While there is no single defining factor, courts consider various aspects like the length of the relationship, financial interdependence, and public perception, with a two-year cohabitation period often being a key indicator, though exceptions exist. Regarding sexual relationship, while often present, it is not a requirement for a de facto relationship to be recognized. The door can be easily opened for financial assets to be able to be claimed as a consequence of a legal divorce. In short both sexes may enter a marriage with financial gain
being a motive right from the beginning.
Now the point I wish to make is that I am beginning to understand why men in particular are
tending to avoid secular marriages in western societies and are instead drifting into being
practicing Muslims. The end result of male abuse by the Australian Family Court (assuming it
exists) will be the same as what divorced Muslim women found out to be the case in Bangkok,
and the imposition of The Rule of Sharia will have enormous consequences for feminism down under.
I note that when men are pushed too far, as the Baxter case in Queensland shows, it will sometimes precipitate violence of the most despicable kind. Another example is Arthur Freeman, a Melbourne man. who threw his four-year-old daughter, Darcey, off the West Gate Bridge in a retaliatory act against his ex-wife in 2009. These are prime examples of Family Court failures.
The current laws in Australia regarding the division of assets and property were based on the research by Lenore Weitzman, author of the "Divorce Revolution."
Her research found that following divorce/separation, a man's standard of living rose by 43% and the woman's fell by 73% took the world by storm.
The only problem was that her research findings were not correct.
I’ll say they are not correct. Does she have any knowledge of the men who are homeless? Men who lost everything at age 52, after 26 years of marriage? After the father was carer for over 9 years, at the wife’s suggestion. The man has to overcome the debt to whoever helped him financially, which again causes him to “feel” what the wife rammed down his throat every time she bullied him. He not only has the emotional loss of the wife but that loss of the son. It amazes me that no one cares about “feminism” and the cost to men.
Yes “women don’t” the woman remains in the home with nothing to spend with the child. Just so happens to be at time of Covid & work from home rules. Whereas the man is “on the street” in the middle of Sydney winter and Covid. Walking walking to stay sane. Looking for laundromats, places to buy food, photocopy notes. Then the uncle whom they visited often, sent a message saying, name, even - 50 -50 and she then has her top tear firm slap an ADVO on him for 100 thousand!! Mrs money bags has son now at top private CHURCH school. Some things stink!!
and the church? they just want the money, so much for the church! and the faith I had.
As a victim along with my son of severe Parental Alienation I would like to get alongside Robert Gaza and share my story to Australian Politicians who are supportive of Australian father right to be a parent, and at the very least be allowed to coparent their child without being subject to viscous false allegations that in our corrupt court you cannot defend against.
I think one approach is going to have to be arguing to just ignore abuse allegations without evidence: "what is asserted without evidence can be dismissed without evidence", as I think the principle states. It's a terrible step to have to take, but the rampant nature of false allegations in family law leaves few other options.
What's not normal is destroying people's lives out of some warped twisted revenge driven status that most of these women have never actually experienced first hand.
Men don't do it.
A very small minority of men go overboard reacting to years of abuse which no one believes is possible from a woman though.
or why the paternal grandparents were not in his life? or why the Aunt, Dad's sister, whom he loved with every bone in his body, was no longer interested in him? No birthday messages to or from the child to Dad or his relatives. From the very beginning when the child sent a text to the father the mother told the child "you should not have done that". The child's next text was, "answer if you can, but don't worry if you can't" Why can the mother decide after she wanted the father to be carer, that she is now in control?
That would have meant death to my grandchild. I refused to hand over the boy to his father who was in a manic state from drug abuse. I kidnapped the child and went into hiding. Father was subsequently goaled for aggravated assault in another incident that weekend. The child's welfare was not even a consideration to the solicitor who, regardless of the fathers mental state abused me for not complying with court orders. Mother and child were ordered to live with me. It cost me $50,000 to save that child who is now 19. As soon as welfare payments ceased father has not come near him.
The issue I have is that the courts ignored the needs of the child to be safe and secure from both dysfunctional parents yet remain within the large extended family that would protect his best interests. His parents major interest were the welfare payments .
Elizabeth, I think that your story should be personally delivered to the Attorney General.
I am not sure of how the current legislative status of what I call "grandparent alienation" is progressing through Parliament, but certainly the previous AG (Dreyfus) was a prime mover in removing the representation of grandparents in Family Court matters. Your case would be a valuable contribution to maintain the status quo where and when grandparents are concerned.
Thanks. It looked to me that there was a child abduction racket as newborn were being removed by police almost every day at that hospital . The mothers were like possums caught in headlights.
Elizabeth you didn’t consider “without evidence”, in fact when the mother lies or fabricates her statement. Natural Justice! The Family Court is to my knowledge the only court where a person knows that lies will be believed, that no investigation will be made.
When both parents are failing and the evidence of abuse is revealed the courts will still consider the parents rights over the child's need for safety and protection. I was called the "Mother in Law from Hell" because I refused to tolerate child abuse from either parent..
Even my affidavit was not presented. The mother’s fabricated story was the only thing accepted. Several people wanted to give evidence. A tennis coach said it was not fair on the father & wanted to be called. A psychologist wanted to give evidence, he phoned the father and said he was concerned he had not been suphoened for the hearing. He turned up, but the father’s barrister decided the “female magistrate”would not be fair. The whole thing took advantage of the situation the father was in and gave the mother exactly what she wanted. The 2 hrs he was allowed to have visiting rights were what the mother said. Even an overnight stay was not allowed. The psychiatrist said there was a loving relationship between the father and son, but the mother’s lawyers were too strong it seems. It has cost us our super! When 1 of 2 people falls out of love and is determined to have what she wants, people should be able to trust the family court to at the very least Hear all the evidence and test it.
Not every case is the same as your case! Child abuse is not involved except to the child having a parent who fed them, bathed them, read to them daily, taught them to hit a ball, kick a ball, throw a ball, go to school when child was bashed up by other students! That parent is no longer around!
I agree with you. No parent would sit by and watch a child hurt. But these comments are about Feminism. Courts biased treatment towards the mother who lied in her affidavit. Acceptance of lies severely affects the father’s ability to have the truth known. The abuse of the child by the mother remains hidden due to the mother ‘s untruthful statements.
Family Law is biased against the child. This was the court dismissing child's rights. Despite a female Judge and me being female, an RN with AOD+ qualifications, the parents rights overrode the child's right to a safe environment. Despite 3 days in court, during which I had to pay for a barrister and a solicitor , with evidence including the fathers living with his brother, a convicted murderer just out of goal, and the father breaking the window glass on the car in anger when the little fellow was in his car seat and mother was attempting to leave his house, the father's sister locking both mother and little child out of the house in PJs and throwing cold water over the child , the father was still given unsupervised access....................... During one of those access visits the child had a compound fracture of both fibia and tibula and still I was chastised for not obeying court orders and police were sent to my house on 'welfare visits" when I refused to drive the very sick child 200 klm to stay with his father.. Relief only came when father was goaled for other violent offenses. . I do not doubt mothers lie but there is more than just that wrong with the Family law.
There is no effort to make even the Family Court female magistrate accountable for what is said, when she justifies actions taken with untruthful statements. ie “the father walked out and was in rental accommodation” not that the police gave him an hour to leave on the word of the wife” No investigation!Expense, expense, but appealing this puts another black mark against the case in the Judges eyes & more money!! Why would an educated woman make false statements??
It’s about time, so many loving fathers have been falsely accused and without proof believed by the “do gooders” and the courts just because a vindictive woman said so! Bring on the 3 strike laws, couldn’t come quick enough!
I know of a Child Safety Officer who used her position to gain custody of her children along with her friend who works in the Family court. They used every strategy known to lie about the father, she came out looking like this saint who helped so many children through her job, the Family Court granted her full custody. So many lives are destroyed by selfish mothers who are hell bent on revenge after a relationship fails. Women manipulate strategically to gain the prize. They forget though the are destroying the child.
Yes all women are shown as Saints! No mention of what her personality did to the father of HER child, as she bullied him into doing what she wanted.
Amazes me that all of the changes being made for the benefit of women actually apply to the way the man was treated by the woman.-----financial abuse, coercive control, bullying, abuse of their rights.
Yes the rewards are there, house, super and child support. Best thing men could do is quit their job and go on the dole until the kids turn 18. The women only get enough money from the taxpayers to buy the kid a Big Mac meal once a fortnight. The stupidity of it all is if the woman works she is paying taxes to get child support from the father on the dole.
I am a child of this type of divorce and I’m in my mid 50s. What I knew at the time is that my parents went to court for about 10 years until my dad got a good lawyer and then it ended. As an adult I was told that my mother accused my father of Sexually interfering with myself and my sibling. When I found this out - in my 40s - , I was flabbergasted - it was not true ! My mother was the dangerous crazy parent and my father was the safe contained and loving parent. I was left in my mother‘s custody with visiting rights to my father every second weekend from there divorce at five years old until I was 16 when I eventually ran away from her house to live with him. I can tell you that this has had lifelong implications for myself, and trickle down the generations. I really hope that they stop this ability to do war games within the family court for the children’s sake.
I fully understand the lifelong implications, time away from your Dad can never be returned. It is evil what Mothers do, though they do not deserve the title, can do to innocent children. It is a form of child abuse.
It's about time that custodial parents, usually the mother, actually understood court orders as rights rather than some sort of request/suggestions that need the mother's approval.
Case in point. I travelled to UK to see my son for a visitation covered by a court order. His mother took him on holiday, starting the day I was to collect him. The orders were registered by her in UK court. She probably just wanted to register the orders that she liked.
Btw there was no suggestion that I was an unfit parent. I did eventually get a short amount of time with him.
Even the father’s lawyers considered she had to be agreeable. She called the tune every time, even his lawyer said it was unimportant but backed the wife’s lawyer.
Ros, I have found the lawyers I have dealt with to be the most dishonest people I have ever met. They are lazy and just want guilty pleas, easy money & little effort.
I’d love to know who the parliamentarians are who Robert has managed to get to listen to him. I’ve sent numerous emails to ministers with little or no reply and even had one respond with laughing emojis when a certain minister for for men’s health was promoting a cake shop and I just said shouldn’t his time be better spent on working on how the court system is a major cause for suicide. And yes I got a laughing emoji as a reply. So thankyou to these parliamentarians who are listening and actually want to make a difference
On another note similar.
My ex wife made an anonymous statement to CASA to get my pilots licence cancelled.
I was told by CASA I could FOI the 'aparrently' anonymous complaint but a female CASA lawyer wouldn't allow it's release because it could identify her.
More women, protecting women.
Regarding CASA.
The shit alleged was so severe that the CASA chief medical officer rang me the day after they got the 'anonymous' report.
She said I hung myself.
In actual fact she hung herself in front of me and I was forced to cut her down, revive her and call and ambulance, all because I left her fir 20 years of beatings and I wasn't taking it anymore.
Then she tried to stab me because I didn't let her die.
The police put an order on her but the NQ women's legal service turned the tables on me by giving her a "choose from the list" task of all the usual things men do to women.
Anyway.
The CMO at CASA admitted, yes we get this all the time from ex-wives so I suggest you FOI the original online anonymous statement.
The rest was dealt with by a feminist lawyer.
Usually the way—in case I am involved “female registrar” quoted untruthful statements. ie “He left and rented accomodation”. In fact truth was “He left when police served an untruthful ADVO”. “He had an hour to leave, no bye to child he’d cared for for over 9 yrs”. When he finally saw child 5 weeks later child asked “Why did you leave?”
And after I sent her details that I was a victim of DV and the abused at the hands of a violent female who tried to kill me and the police put an order on her, also that I needed the disclosure to stop the ongoing DV.......?
She doubled down even further, and refused to answer any of my requests.
I sent her a final email telling her she was perpetuating the cycle of Domestic Violence.
3 months later my ex wife beat up our own daughter.
Thanks Government sanctioned feminists.........
In any other world (I. E. Private enterprise, heaven forbid any workplace or any home) a person who contributed (MEN) would be nailed to the wall.
Why nothing?
A similar situation occurs where allegations of DV are successfully progressed to formal charges, concocted or otherwise.
Individuals then having those charges filed can be denied insurance - from motor vehicle through to Personal Indemnity etc. If your business depends on such cover then you are rendered unable to work in your profession/trade. Depending on the charge it may prevent you from gainful employment you formerly enjoyed for up to 10 years.
It can also mean an "own goal" for the partner who instigates this; Child Support suffers through the booted-from-home and now unemployed ex.
Ross, true a man with Dv charges or conviction in our Kangaroo Courts from false allegations, can see him become unemployable, have difficulty getting any form of insurance or possibly even renting accomodation. Once there is a conviction the damage can’t be undone.
Not to mention the damage psychologically caused when he assumes “friends” will believe the wife. It’s like some of the mud sticks, when the wife is considered to be truthful & is not questioned.
It is so wrong that mere charges of dv affect insurance that’s not domestic… what is the ‘risk’ issue?
"David" unfortunately will already be labelled as aggressive and controlling by most departments simply for going to great lengths to get justice and not backing down.
The special bond forged between mothers and a child they gave birth to, breast fed and brainwashed in the early years has for too long been used to blackmail and disenfranchise the fathers who are JUST as eager to love and nurture their children.
I spoke to two Muslim women in Bangkok who had been divorced recently because they had not
had any children with their legal husband. It had been a polygamous marriage. Both were divorced after their husband said "At Talaq" three times. The fact that their husband may have been the cause of their infertility did not enter the matter. They were divorced with exactly no
financial support. As you may have guessed they were turned out on to the streets as homeless
and poverty stricken. Both of the women then became prostitutes in order to survive .
Compare that to the so called de facto "marriages"- assumed to be marriages by the Family Court in Australia. In Australia, a de facto relationship is when two adults live together as a couple on a "genuine domestic basis" but are not legally married. This is recognized under federal law and applies to same-sex and opposite-sex couples, with legal implications similar to marriage, particularly for property, financial matters, and parenting arrangements - if the relationship ends. While there is no single defining factor, courts consider various aspects like the length of the relationship, financial interdependence, and public perception, with a two-year cohabitation period often being a key indicator, though exceptions exist. Regarding sexual relationship, while often present, it is not a requirement for a de facto relationship to be recognized. The door can be easily opened for financial assets to be able to be claimed as a consequence of a legal divorce. In short both sexes may enter a marriage with financial gain
being a motive right from the beginning.
Now the point I wish to make is that I am beginning to understand why men in particular are
tending to avoid secular marriages in western societies and are instead drifting into being
practicing Muslims. The end result of male abuse by the Australian Family Court (assuming it
exists) will be the same as what divorced Muslim women found out to be the case in Bangkok,
and the imposition of The Rule of Sharia will have enormous consequences for feminism down under.
I note that when men are pushed too far, as the Baxter case in Queensland shows, it will sometimes precipitate violence of the most despicable kind. Another example is Arthur Freeman, a Melbourne man. who threw his four-year-old daughter, Darcey, off the West Gate Bridge in a retaliatory act against his ex-wife in 2009. These are prime examples of Family Court failures.
The current laws in Australia regarding the division of assets and property were based on the research by Lenore Weitzman, author of the "Divorce Revolution."
Her research found that following divorce/separation, a man's standard of living rose by 43% and the woman's fell by 73% took the world by storm.
The only problem was that her research findings were not correct.
https://www.aph.gov.au/~/media/wopapub/senate/committee/clac_ctte/completed_inquiries/2004_07/child_support/submissions/sub21a_pdf.ashx
I’ll say they are not correct. Does she have any knowledge of the men who are homeless? Men who lost everything at age 52, after 26 years of marriage? After the father was carer for over 9 years, at the wife’s suggestion. The man has to overcome the debt to whoever helped him financially, which again causes him to “feel” what the wife rammed down his throat every time she bullied him. He not only has the emotional loss of the wife but that loss of the son. It amazes me that no one cares about “feminism” and the cost to men.
Yes Ros, they have not got a clue, men lose their jobs & become homeless, women don’t.
Yes “women don’t” the woman remains in the home with nothing to spend with the child. Just so happens to be at time of Covid & work from home rules. Whereas the man is “on the street” in the middle of Sydney winter and Covid. Walking walking to stay sane. Looking for laundromats, places to buy food, photocopy notes. Then the uncle whom they visited often, sent a message saying, name, even - 50 -50 and she then has her top tear firm slap an ADVO on him for 100 thousand!! Mrs money bags has son now at top private CHURCH school. Some things stink!!
and the church? they just want the money, so much for the church! and the faith I had.
Phillip, the "Divorce Revolution" article that you added is a must read one.
As a victim along with my son of severe Parental Alienation I would like to get alongside Robert Gaza and share my story to Australian Politicians who are supportive of Australian father right to be a parent, and at the very least be allowed to coparent their child without being subject to viscous false allegations that in our corrupt court you cannot defend against.
I think one approach is going to have to be arguing to just ignore abuse allegations without evidence: "what is asserted without evidence can be dismissed without evidence", as I think the principle states. It's a terrible step to have to take, but the rampant nature of false allegations in family law leaves few other options.
Agreed
Was giving women the right to vote a wise thing or not?
In theory it shouldn't make any difference.
The right to having a say is normal.
What's not normal is destroying people's lives out of some warped twisted revenge driven status that most of these women have never actually experienced first hand.
Men don't do it.
A very small minority of men go overboard reacting to years of abuse which no one believes is possible from a woman though.
We don’t know the cost to society yet, for the child to spend their whole life wondering why Dad was not in his life.
or why the paternal grandparents were not in his life? or why the Aunt, Dad's sister, whom he loved with every bone in his body, was no longer interested in him? No birthday messages to or from the child to Dad or his relatives. From the very beginning when the child sent a text to the father the mother told the child "you should not have done that". The child's next text was, "answer if you can, but don't worry if you can't" Why can the mother decide after she wanted the father to be carer, that she is now in control?
Ros, my grandsons loved visiting and also spending time with their cousins until lies from the mother ripped them away.
It was potentially a bad move.
Seems not
Go have a read.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erin_Pizzey
I spoke to her on the phone some years ago lovely lady.
That would have meant death to my grandchild. I refused to hand over the boy to his father who was in a manic state from drug abuse. I kidnapped the child and went into hiding. Father was subsequently goaled for aggravated assault in another incident that weekend. The child's welfare was not even a consideration to the solicitor who, regardless of the fathers mental state abused me for not complying with court orders. Mother and child were ordered to live with me. It cost me $50,000 to save that child who is now 19. As soon as welfare payments ceased father has not come near him.
There are parents of both genders who pose a risk to their children's welfare.
Agreed and these crisis/outlying events are not the main issue being discussed here.
The issue I have is that the courts ignored the needs of the child to be safe and secure from both dysfunctional parents yet remain within the large extended family that would protect his best interests. His parents major interest were the welfare payments .
Elizabeth, I think that your story should be personally delivered to the Attorney General.
I am not sure of how the current legislative status of what I call "grandparent alienation" is progressing through Parliament, but certainly the previous AG (Dreyfus) was a prime mover in removing the representation of grandparents in Family Court matters. Your case would be a valuable contribution to maintain the status quo where and when grandparents are concerned.
Thanks. It looked to me that there was a child abduction racket as newborn were being removed by police almost every day at that hospital . The mothers were like possums caught in headlights.
Sad to hear. Courts and the 'suits' not being of much help. No surprises there.
The vast majority of child abuse is done by mothers not fathers
And infanticide is near 50/50. Mothers/fathers.
Elizabeth you didn’t consider “without evidence”, in fact when the mother lies or fabricates her statement. Natural Justice! The Family Court is to my knowledge the only court where a person knows that lies will be believed, that no investigation will be made.
When both parents are failing and the evidence of abuse is revealed the courts will still consider the parents rights over the child's need for safety and protection. I was called the "Mother in Law from Hell" because I refused to tolerate child abuse from either parent..
Even my affidavit was not presented. The mother’s fabricated story was the only thing accepted. Several people wanted to give evidence. A tennis coach said it was not fair on the father & wanted to be called. A psychologist wanted to give evidence, he phoned the father and said he was concerned he had not been suphoened for the hearing. He turned up, but the father’s barrister decided the “female magistrate”would not be fair. The whole thing took advantage of the situation the father was in and gave the mother exactly what she wanted. The 2 hrs he was allowed to have visiting rights were what the mother said. Even an overnight stay was not allowed. The psychiatrist said there was a loving relationship between the father and son, but the mother’s lawyers were too strong it seems. It has cost us our super! When 1 of 2 people falls out of love and is determined to have what she wants, people should be able to trust the family court to at the very least Hear all the evidence and test it.
Not every case is the same as your case! Child abuse is not involved except to the child having a parent who fed them, bathed them, read to them daily, taught them to hit a ball, kick a ball, throw a ball, go to school when child was bashed up by other students! That parent is no longer around!
I agree with you. No parent would sit by and watch a child hurt. But these comments are about Feminism. Courts biased treatment towards the mother who lied in her affidavit. Acceptance of lies severely affects the father’s ability to have the truth known. The abuse of the child by the mother remains hidden due to the mother ‘s untruthful statements.
Family Law is biased against the child. This was the court dismissing child's rights. Despite a female Judge and me being female, an RN with AOD+ qualifications, the parents rights overrode the child's right to a safe environment. Despite 3 days in court, during which I had to pay for a barrister and a solicitor , with evidence including the fathers living with his brother, a convicted murderer just out of goal, and the father breaking the window glass on the car in anger when the little fellow was in his car seat and mother was attempting to leave his house, the father's sister locking both mother and little child out of the house in PJs and throwing cold water over the child , the father was still given unsupervised access....................... During one of those access visits the child had a compound fracture of both fibia and tibula and still I was chastised for not obeying court orders and police were sent to my house on 'welfare visits" when I refused to drive the very sick child 200 klm to stay with his father.. Relief only came when father was goaled for other violent offenses. . I do not doubt mothers lie but there is more than just that wrong with the Family law.
Madness!!
There is no effort to make even the Family Court female magistrate accountable for what is said, when she justifies actions taken with untruthful statements. ie “the father walked out and was in rental accommodation” not that the police gave him an hour to leave on the word of the wife” No investigation!Expense, expense, but appealing this puts another black mark against the case in the Judges eyes & more money!! Why would an educated woman make false statements??
It’s about time, so many loving fathers have been falsely accused and without proof believed by the “do gooders” and the courts just because a vindictive woman said so! Bring on the 3 strike laws, couldn’t come quick enough!
I know of a Child Safety Officer who used her position to gain custody of her children along with her friend who works in the Family court. They used every strategy known to lie about the father, she came out looking like this saint who helped so many children through her job, the Family Court granted her full custody. So many lives are destroyed by selfish mothers who are hell bent on revenge after a relationship fails. Women manipulate strategically to gain the prize. They forget though the are destroying the child.
Yes all women are shown as Saints! No mention of what her personality did to the father of HER child, as she bullied him into doing what she wanted.
Amazes me that all of the changes being made for the benefit of women actually apply to the way the man was treated by the woman.-----financial abuse, coercive control, bullying, abuse of their rights.
They benefit financially— we’ll see a statement soon that women are more focused on property.
Yes the rewards are there, house, super and child support. Best thing men could do is quit their job and go on the dole until the kids turn 18. The women only get enough money from the taxpayers to buy the kid a Big Mac meal once a fortnight. The stupidity of it all is if the woman works she is paying taxes to get child support from the father on the dole.
I am a child of this type of divorce and I’m in my mid 50s. What I knew at the time is that my parents went to court for about 10 years until my dad got a good lawyer and then it ended. As an adult I was told that my mother accused my father of Sexually interfering with myself and my sibling. When I found this out - in my 40s - , I was flabbergasted - it was not true ! My mother was the dangerous crazy parent and my father was the safe contained and loving parent. I was left in my mother‘s custody with visiting rights to my father every second weekend from there divorce at five years old until I was 16 when I eventually ran away from her house to live with him. I can tell you that this has had lifelong implications for myself, and trickle down the generations. I really hope that they stop this ability to do war games within the family court for the children’s sake.
I fully understand the lifelong implications, time away from your Dad can never be returned. It is evil what Mothers do, though they do not deserve the title, can do to innocent children. It is a form of child abuse.
I'm so sorry to read this, Sali. I'm going through something similar in some respects.
Have a read of Helen Andrews excellent essay hyperlinked in Bettina's essay.
It's about time that custodial parents, usually the mother, actually understood court orders as rights rather than some sort of request/suggestions that need the mother's approval.
Case in point. I travelled to UK to see my son for a visitation covered by a court order. His mother took him on holiday, starting the day I was to collect him. The orders were registered by her in UK court. She probably just wanted to register the orders that she liked.
Btw there was no suggestion that I was an unfit parent. I did eventually get a short amount of time with him.
Even the father’s lawyers considered she had to be agreeable. She called the tune every time, even his lawyer said it was unimportant but backed the wife’s lawyer.
Ros, I have found the lawyers I have dealt with to be the most dishonest people I have ever met. They are lazy and just want guilty pleas, easy money & little effort.
Yes Kaylee I can’t believe the dishonesty within The Family Court and how biased against men they are.
It is good to see some progress being made, even though it is slow
I honestly don’t see any progress. Police Still Do Not Investigate. Men are left without understanding, women remain top dog.
Ros, it all starts with the Police, after what I know and seen, I will never have respect for most cops.
I’d love to know who the parliamentarians are who Robert has managed to get to listen to him. I’ve sent numerous emails to ministers with little or no reply and even had one respond with laughing emojis when a certain minister for for men’s health was promoting a cake shop and I just said shouldn’t his time be better spent on working on how the court system is a major cause for suicide. And yes I got a laughing emoji as a reply. So thankyou to these parliamentarians who are listening and actually want to make a difference