No , things are different now feminists have gone too far , men need to fight back , your idea that the stoic man should just shrug off all the injustice and abuse , be a “man” .
This is really a cop out driven more by fear than bravery , understandable in a society which has shamed masculinity and men for so long , men need to complain more find their voice ,in other words do what the women do ,whinge and whine until they get what they want. Sure we’ll have a society of petulant juvenile immature cretins , a kindergarten, sounds like Parliament doesn’t it.
I, personally, think that we already have too many entitled, over-sized, toddlers whining and complaining about anything and everything - of both genders, and all the other ones too.
About time people started boycotting the institutions that are inappropriate (or, dare I say, evil?) and try to do some good around the place instead of joining the masses of 'Big Babies' demanding attention.
Just my personal view: I don't expect everyone to agree with me.
You’re right it would be better if all parties could behave like mature adults , but the feminists have shown time and time again that they not able to do this , they want to be the victims when it suits them but still expect to rub shoulders with the leaders , they want to be politicians , senior public servants ,company CEOs etc. These are hard jobs not for wimps , but as soon as a man looks down their dress they melt , scream sexual assault and play the victim card .
My point was that if women want to play dirty pool then the men should consider doing the same.
I really do understand where you're coming from, and I also sympathize with your view. However, lowering our standards to that of a bunch of entitled whingers is not the long term answer.
If we did that, we give up all of our rights to the moral high ground, and once we do that, we will never get them back.
At the moment, there are many women (perhaps even the silent majority of women?) who sympathize with us. Once we start bitching and complaining then we'll lose those women and they'll never return to us.
The courts favour women at present not because they complain the loudest but due to something entirely unrelated to the entitled women themselves, and that is because they (the Powers that Be) want to complete what they started regarding the destruction of the family unit, and demoralising the men is the best way to do this. If we decide to follow the negative aspects of what the feminists demand, then those instigating this will win all the sooner!
Men are by no means perfect, but they can take more sh!t than women can on average and this is a problem to those who wish to bring down the current state of affairs.
Sometimes holding the moral high ground is a luxury you can’t afford , the lessons from history are there. Pre WW2 the British tried to be friends with Adolf Hitler , Neville Chamberlain PM went on a peace mission , came back waving a piece of paper and proclaimed that “Mr Hitler is a nice man he won’t go to war , look he signed an agreement “
We all know what happened then , these feminist Marxist of today are no better that the Hitlers Nazis.
Okay, now you are just being silly. Neville Chamberlain never liked Hitler. When Hitler and Stalin started WW2, they did so out of a shared animosity towards the liberal international order (not unlike China and Russia today, with Russia now securing itself as a client state to China).
The Gender Studies ladies lack the emotional stability and maturity to actually do real harm. They have peaked and need to be escorted back to their little sub-communities. They are not going to invade neighboring countries any time soon.
What you are saying is simply not the way to win. The West has always won on virtue and honor. This is why Chinese-funded campaigns to malign our history (colonial studies and the like) are so nefarious. We have been led to believe that our ancestors were monsters, when in reality they were Great Men (and Women) of the highest order. Degrading our behavior is how we devolve back into monkeys, not how we advance civilization. Besides, the kind of women you point out are in the minority, moreover a tiny minority.
Here, here. The last thing we need are even more whining pathetic losers. Here in the US our Republican party has been mimicking the worst of the Progressives (ie some variation of "Poor me!"). There are no adults left to vote for.
This is actually - potentially - a good thing: when there is no-one left to vote for, it finally allows us to reinvent the system from the ground up, hopefully to become a better version of what has gone before.
If course, we (as a population) must choose to do the hard work to achieve this; we can also choose to do nothing and see where we end up.
Great article Bettina. I am aware of a case in which this abuse was applied directly to a man by a psychologist he had visited for trauma counselling. He was the victim of a violent assault from a former partner and after reporting the incident to police, was promptly arrested and charged with assault. The reason given? Because in defending himself he admitted grabbing her arms to prevent being struck. Let that sink in first of all....
Then, being lumbered with so called, protective bail conditions, his abusive former partner initiated a dialogue claiming she wanted to withdraw her complaint and charges. The result, as you can imagine, was that the man was arrested again and this time thrown in gaol for two months. Finally gaining bail he was placed on home detention with monitoring and the whole ankle bracelet. He endured that for a further six months, which is the limit the WA governemt can impose such conditions, then they threw him back in gaol for a further two months.
The end result was that the police withdrew the charges finally....two days prior to trial.....after he repeatedly refused to plead guilty to lesser charges they offered. I don't need to explain to anyone how wrong that is and that it sounds positively dystopian.
However, it was what he described while trying to seek counselling support when on the home detention bail that shocked me the most. Upon arriving for his appointment ( that the authorities had harrassed his ability to go to to begin with) as soon has he sat down in the female psychologists office and tried to speak, he broke down sobbing uncontrollably. He described trying to speak and explain why he was there but could not stop crying and sobbing. He said he would not have said one coherent sentence for five minutes when the psychologist asked if he had suicidal feelings or had thought of self harming etc. Shocked, he said no, and tried to articulate the stress he was under with the oppressive conditions imposed by Community Corrections officers who managed and imposed the bail conditions.
The psych offered to call them and discuss, suggesting that she may be able to get the, to back off a little. He felt uncomfortable with the suggestion yet she persisted and eventually he agreed. A phone call ensued in his presence and while he could hear the psych obviously, he could not hear who she was speaking to. After a minute or so he said he started to relax a little and calm down. Being lulled by the conversation which appeared to be having some positive influence given it was coming from a mental health professional and not just him complaining for a change. He felt heard he said.
The session continued and he described feeling much better at the end of the session. Upon leaving, positive affirmations were offered by the psych and he got in his car to drive back to work. It was an hours drive and he said he felt the best and most positive he had since the nightmare began six months previous. However, within minutes of arriving back at his business premises (a very public and busy service business to a small local community), a police car pulled into the parking area and came to a sudden stop, diagonally in the middle of the car park. Two fully armed officers step out, wearing, what he described as full combat kit, sidearms, bullet proof vests etc and begin walking towards him. Both with their hand resting on the butt of their firearms holstered on their belt.
He said it naturally sent him into a spiralling panic. In full view of many of his customers and staff, in the full view of the public in the middle of the carpark. He thought they were there to arrest him again and were taking him back to gaol. But he had no idea why. He said he just remembers saying "No, no, I haven't done anything." The officers were loudly telling him to calm down while looking at him somewhat strangely.
Aftr a few minutes it is established that the officers were despatched by the Community Corrections staff to conduct a mental health welfare check due to him telling the psych he was suicidal and had considered driving into a tree. A later conversation with the psych revealed she had made another phone call to Community Corrections after he had left the surgery where these things were discussed.
At no stage did he ever raise suicide or self harm as a subject. The female psych proposed this and then off it went down the rabbit hole to Wonderland from there. This was on of the most eggregious breaches of trust I had ever heard of by a health professional and personally she should be thrown out of the profession. I am not sure whether he has pursued a complaint against but I dare say, he has a fair idea what the likely outcome would be and doesn't want to expose himself to further institutional abuse.
The collusion at all levels of government and service delivery by these feminist zealots, aided by policies and fake research such as MARAM and the AIFS is beyond the pail......this stuff needs to stop. Immediately.
Your essay was a quite an epiphany for just how deep and how broad this insidious conspiracy for relational dominance and power has become.
Thank you Bettina…. Your tireless advocacy for decency and respect as a minimum standard for everyone is something all Australian men shall be forever indebted to you for.
Interesting that you should say that about psychologists , it raises the question ‘just how well educated and trained are they ? No doubt the majority are women and some could be just DEI placements. Like most university courses the standards have been lowered to allow for the big influx of young people who in the past would not be there , as well as overseas students bringing in revenue.
To be a good psychologist I imagine requires high intelligence and intellect, empathy and compassion apart from the years of hard work studying just to be qualified , before work experience hones the person into a “professional “.
Often courts depend on psychologists reports to decide on cases like child custody , but who could be sure they are truely experienced professionals with high standards and ethics ?
I completely understand. Please read my initial comment above for reference for what I'm about to say.
My eldest son is autistic. Most of the time he is quite reasonable, but he is now properly medicated. We can't always be sure he is taking his medication as he does get a bit dysregulated when we pressure him.
We currently live in our own home, a townhouse in a complex of 20. Most of the people living here know our and another resident's situations. Yep, two families with autistic kids, both of them aren't the poster child type, both get verbally abusive and potentially violent and destructive when they dysregulate. For us this is less of a frequent thing due to the high level of medication our son is now on.
I have called the police twice due to the escalation my son has experienced, both times were when my wife had lost self control and she was also getting quite angry. I remove myself from the home and call the police. I am no good to anyone if arrested. Each time I do this, I get real PTSD feelings. The last time I was quite off my block and trembling quite drastically.
The last time this happened, the police stated that they couldn't do anything to help me as this was a domestic situation between myself, my wife and our son. They suggested that the next time something like this happened, I should call an ambulance, major trigger for me.
It happened again, I called the ambulance. Again, the police came. The stress was beyond anything bearable, but I held it together. My son was taken away, my wife went with him. Now, 8 weeks after that night, both my wife and I are in crisis care, we are now recognised as living with family violence, sadly my son is the perpetrator. We have a team of two psychologists, one psychiatrist and hopefully soon we will meet the pediatrician who is also on the team. There is also another doctor and other mental health professionals on the team.
Why did and does it take so much trauma for us guys to get help, why are we pushed so far till near breaking point before we are listened to.
I feel for your friend, I understand how he feels, it's horrible.
Thank you for sharing such a personal story Chris. My heart aches for you and your family. Unfortunately, you and your wife live the daily torment of a society that culturally shifted to insist that your son deserves to be treated as if he was a fully functioning, autonomous human being, rather than a poor helpless soul, condemned to be imprisoned for life inside a severely autistic body, never capable of independent function.
I don’t have the answers but I struggle to understand why society thinks that condemning you, your wife and the rest of your family to the same metaphorical prison is in any way compassionate, empathetic or fair.
You’ll forgive my somewhat abrupt tone. Such is the relative indifference to men’s suffering in such examples by almost all women (regardless of whether they agree with or are non subscribers to the feminist narrative) and a bizarrely high percentage of men, it was difficult to discern the tone of your comment.
That and I am very likely overly tuned to jumping on attitudes that lack humanity on the DV debate.
Western Australia is a police state and a feminist stronghold since the infamous feminist Carmen Laurence was Premier. The judiciary is corrupt , judges and magistrates do as they are told , the outcome of most cases is predetermined regardless of the evidence . Police often kill citizens in very dubious circumstances but are never charged , the system closes ranks and protects its own .
Slightly off topic but I was motivated to send this to the ABC's Media Watch:
I refer to last week's Media Watch which lauded the Sydney Morning Herald for withstanding pressure to print the news which may offend the powerful.
Unfortunately this does not extend to comments submitted to its online stories.
I regularly submit comments to The Age/SMH stories and there is one topic on which they routinely disallow comments which challenge their editorial position.
The latest was:
‘Douche bags’: Justin Trudeau takes on the manosphere in Melbourne
Cara Waters
April 25, 2026 — 2:31pm
My rejected comment:
"If there was less vilification of masculinity, young men would not be seeking affirmation in the 'manosphere'.
At a secondary school in Warrnambool boys were told to stand in assembly and apologise for the "behaviours of their gender" to the girls. That kind of thing happened in Germany in the 1930s and 40s, although the distinction was not about gender.
Then there is a meme circulating in which women are asked whether they would rather be stuck on an island with a bear or a man. Many women think it clever to choose the creature which could literally tear them limb from limb. And no, that is not the man.
The13-year-old main character from Netflix global hit Adolescence, commits life-changing violence without remorse when a classmate rejects him. Where did the idea for this story come from? From the zeitgeist whereby boys must apologise for who they are?
The Australian Institute of Criminology has statistics on family violence. One third of the victims of partner violence are men. That is not an insignificant statistic, especially given the reluctance of society to accept that men can be victims as well as perpetrators. And most perpetrators of child homicide in the family are women.
In Victoria we have a Parliamentary Secretary for Men’s Behaviour Change. Only Men. Women's behaviour is apparently fine as it is.
If there was less feminist dominance in discussion of these matters, boys and young men would not be seeking affirmation from people like Andrew Tate."
Phil, your comment about the Men's Behaviour Change Program ("MBCP") strikes an accord with me. As you state: "only men", when we live in an age of supposed inclusiveness! Why are women denied such a facility, along with LGBQI etc?
Another issue with the MBCP can concern a situation whereby a request from the program leader(s) is for participants to write down their feelings and where they may have erred in their previous behaviours, i.e., that forced them to these sessions in the first place. Once these "confessions" are completed, they then have to be handed in to the supervising folk where they can end up being used at Court via a Subpoena.
The Duluth folk in the State of Minnesota, authors of the MBCP, sure created a big problem.
And the continual news stories claiming men aren't interested in relationships, usually proclaiming men are the issue, or childish, yet all the evidence of women continuously getting their own way, while causing extreme problems for men is the only real reason men are done with women. It ain't because they are gay, childish, or any other reason except a lot of men are fed up with these spoiled brats getting their own way at our expense.
I don't keep a diary on such things, but around 2 yrs ago I respponded RESPECTFULLY to WA Police Posts STRONGLY STATING that they would go and ARREST THE MEN when "Domestic Violence was REPORTED....... Not investigated, just REPORTED. From what I have often read, most DV reports DO NOT INVOLVE PHYSICAL VIOLENCE. The Police at the time, according to their own UNION WAS MASSIVELY UNDERSTAFFED and they couldn't keep recruits for five minutes. Very inexperienced JUDGE AND JURY then???????????? Oh, they BLOCKED ME. Truth hurts.
Ah! Someone else who's noticed the innumerable mostly female cottage industries funded by gynocentrism and criminalising (CJS) or wealth extraction from men (the Family Court). Not to mention most public service industries. Five Eyes Alliance its sometimes called. It's basically Australia, Canada, New Zealand, the United Kingdom, and the US.
A couple of short interesting videos by women on toxic femininity. An interesting statistic. The highest rate of domestic violence is in lesbian relationships.
"I am well aware that men have also suffered under patriarchal (toxic) images of masculinity. Not just gay men..."
That is what a non-binary [biological woman, who had her breasts removed. Who had healthy body parts removed] told me [originally in German, as I live in Switzerland] when I told her that my brother had committed suicide by hanging.
After this encounter, and I am still associated with this person, I keep my mouth shut. I name the things that need to be named and write them in my Journal.
There are a lot of mentally ill and uncaring people on this planet who pretend that they are caring, inclusive and etc., etc.
** I am a gay man and hence that reference by her...
Excellent article Bettina. The Risk Assessments themselves define expressing intent to self-harm as an act of coercive control, not as the cry for help it is, what, 40-50 tines more likely to be. I have a memory of Barry O'Farrell introducing something similar in NSW as part of his 2012 DV reforms but I can't find the source.
>> The Risk Assessments themselves define expressing intent to self-harm as an act of coercive control,
Only when the intent is expressed by a man. I recall seeing articles in the MSM saying that women expressing intent to self-harm are probably victims of coercive control. The double-standard is sickening.
Fortunately, one relevant article actually came up for me today, and I've posted it further down the thread!
In the UK, in 2017, a man was accused of driving his wife to suicide by "coercive contro", "dv" etc...
It took until 2026 for him to clear his name, by proving that his wife's allegations were all false, and that all-along he had been the victim of her unidirectional abuse.
So true. I have heard numerous accounts from men of discovering their ex had been spreading malicious gossip amongst mutual friends networks that he had been making self harm threats as a way of eliciting guilt/control.
How twisted do you have to be to engage in such harmful lies??
Not only did I make the link between suicidal people and their propensity towards violence, I did this some years ago, well before 2018. I am just a thinker, no real qualifications, but as a survivor of an attempt, I and others like me have a semi unique understanding of what it's like, and I'm willing to share this.
Stop.
That is the intention. While there are infinite unique reasons as to why a person will make an attempt, there is one single motive and that is to find a way to stop. Stop everything. This intention then brings up several basic instincts, your brain isn't operating correctly, your brain is designed to do everything possible to keep you alive, you are trying to override the most basic human function, exist. Yes, anger, frustration and other words could be used here, but for me they don't come anyway near what it really feels like. I can completely understand if a person was likely to lash out and exert violence on another, this would surely be the time, especially so if the stop involved another person who was causing the situation, not always the case though.
I survived.
1/09/2018. I'm married, we have an autistic son, we have a neurotypical son, we have a business and we were renting. Things weren't good. My wife was close to shutting down, I was trying my best to help her, my chosen way was to support her with a parenting course due to the fact that she was having such a difficult time with our as it was then undiagnosed son.
She made an attempt. I called an ambulance. I also did probably the most important thing I have ever done in my life, and I highly recommend any bloke out there do the same. I called my closest female friend and asked her to come around and look after our kids who were asleep.
A knock on the door. The police. They explained to me that they had heard the call for the ambulance and thought they would check up and see if everything was alright. BULL FUCKING SHIT was what was going through my mind. A carefully orchestrated play began playing out. Two police stayed down stairs with me, the two ambulance paramedics went up stairs with the other two police.
What happened next is totally despicable. Here's me, my wife whom I love more than life itself is upstairs experiencing the worst moment of her life, I was just about to experience mine.
I was grilled for what seemed like forever. I remember my friend, Sue, standing up to the police stating that she had known me for over 20 years and that I was a danger to no one. Sue told them to back off. She also told me that I needed to remain calm or at least as calm as I could as the police were not there to help. They wanted an arrest.
When my wife was brought downstairs, I was asked to move to the furthest part of the room, two police officers stood between me and my wife and instructed me not to even make eye contact with her. My wife was taken out to the ambulance. A while later two of the police came back in and said that for the moment they had no further questions and for me not to make contact. A person would call me.
I was then left with my two sons who were under the age of ten at the time. Weird due to what had just gone down.
There is more to this story and it's equally as terrifying. The one thing that never happened, well two other things. I have never been asked if I was OK after this event. Not by the police, not by the hospital, not by the psychologist who grilled me the day after, no one. It is 8 years later and it still haunts me, I just have to live with it. The second thing, no support was offered to my wife, none. I had to find that support, for her and even when I found that support, no one there asked me if I was OK either.
Perhaps this. Perhaps we actually start to give a fuck about men and what they go through, maybe then things will get better and we wouldn't have to have these draconian measures to protect 2/3s of the population at the expense of the other 1/3d.
Oh, the UNSW has proven that a majority of male DV reoffending is committed by men who are living with undiagnosed, underdiagnosed, un treated or under treated mental and or psychological health issues. The cost to lock one of these guys up is around $150,000pa and at least one victim, the cost to treat these guys with an effectiveness of around 40% is a remarkable $7,000 pa with no reoffending, no victim. The NSW government who funded the study threw the results out as the feminist bunch refused to accept that DV was a result of mental and psychological illness.
Well, fuck me, the NSW government now has blood on it's hands.
I am so sorry you went through all this, Chris. A shocking story. Interesting that it was back in 2018. Obviously these policies have been part of the system a lot longer than I thought.
Thanks Bettina. We know a policeman who clearly stated that this practice was absolutely in their play book. All they were after was an arrest so they could bang their chests in celebration.
The weird thing. Some news agencies are reporting that DV and other problems are on the increase. There is a very simply way to stem this increase. Care for men.
Every day i read the news and listen to it on the radio. Yesterday the ABC news reported that even when going to bed, a woman's work isn't complete. Um, yeah. Today the news was that 1 in 7 women believe that they weren't properly diagnosed by their doctor. This kind of stuff happens every day and often more than once. Men are bad, women are oppressed, it's all men's fault. No wonder why men are retaliating.
Oh, our eldest son is autistic with a dose of ADHD and probably other things as well. It took us over 7 years and thousands of dollars to finally get the diagnosis. When we got it, it was like a watershed moment. Things have actually got worse since then, mostly because of the fact that I, a male, am the primary carer and organiser for my son's situation.
Oh sweet Jesus! I have only just read this part of your story Chris, I was scratching my head as to what you meant in your other note.
Mate, nothing I can say is remotely adequate.
All I can offer you is that ear to listen and talk if are prepared to. I’m aware how difficult you may now find it to trust after that amount of time and the repeated and intentional efforts to invalidate your experience. Even if you aren’t quite ready or able and just want to shoot the breeze, DM me any time and I’ll forward a number so we speak if you wish.
I’ll drop you a quick line now just the same.
You’re an admirable man of considerable resolve mate. Believe it or not, you will have helped others like you by sharing as you have. Thanks mate. 👌
As you now have read both, but still only part of my story, I do need to tell you that finally, after two situations where the police were called for my son and the final one when an ambulance was called, we have finally managed to find some, well the help that we should have received many years ago. The team helping us is growing, we have two psychologists, both make (this is very important), a psychiatrist, a pediatrician and a regular doctor all working in and as a team to work through our current situation. We are making progress, however how hard we, I had to push to get this far is inhumane. Many parents just give up.
The divorce rate for parents like us is way higher than the background rate, some 40-50% higher. It is my belief that this is because of the lack of support for the fathers.
I am preparing to speak with our local politician who already knows our situation. Hopefully we can make some changes.
I do need to say this though, the research that i do into how badly men are treated in situations like mine is horrendous. So many broken families, so much PTSD, it's been likened to being a front line soldier in an unrelenting war. It literally never stops. It's not surprising to me, the news about that family in WA, the double murder/suicide. Their kids were autistic, they had money, it didn't surprise me, it will happen again.
bed for me now, i have been working since 6am, it's now 10;20pm.
I’m not entirely sure the hand of communist/socialist states hasn’t played a role in the indoctrination of militant feminists and their subsequent take over of specific elements of the bureaucracy.
The historic links to communist movements and feminists, both here and in places like the US are well documented.
So now men are not only blamed for being suicidal; their vulnerability means they might harm someone else. I'm a writer who's worked with mental health specialists over the years and I never heard that one mentioned clinically. The narrative is crazy.
Thanks for posting this.
Just goes to show that when you (as a man) have emotional issues, it's best just to 'shut up and get on with it.' Much like men have always done.
No , things are different now feminists have gone too far , men need to fight back , your idea that the stoic man should just shrug off all the injustice and abuse , be a “man” .
This is really a cop out driven more by fear than bravery , understandable in a society which has shamed masculinity and men for so long , men need to complain more find their voice ,in other words do what the women do ,whinge and whine until they get what they want. Sure we’ll have a society of petulant juvenile immature cretins , a kindergarten, sounds like Parliament doesn’t it.
Thanks for your comment.
I, personally, think that we already have too many entitled, over-sized, toddlers whining and complaining about anything and everything - of both genders, and all the other ones too.
About time people started boycotting the institutions that are inappropriate (or, dare I say, evil?) and try to do some good around the place instead of joining the masses of 'Big Babies' demanding attention.
Just my personal view: I don't expect everyone to agree with me.
You’re right it would be better if all parties could behave like mature adults , but the feminists have shown time and time again that they not able to do this , they want to be the victims when it suits them but still expect to rub shoulders with the leaders , they want to be politicians , senior public servants ,company CEOs etc. These are hard jobs not for wimps , but as soon as a man looks down their dress they melt , scream sexual assault and play the victim card .
My point was that if women want to play dirty pool then the men should consider doing the same.
I really do understand where you're coming from, and I also sympathize with your view. However, lowering our standards to that of a bunch of entitled whingers is not the long term answer.
If we did that, we give up all of our rights to the moral high ground, and once we do that, we will never get them back.
At the moment, there are many women (perhaps even the silent majority of women?) who sympathize with us. Once we start bitching and complaining then we'll lose those women and they'll never return to us.
The courts favour women at present not because they complain the loudest but due to something entirely unrelated to the entitled women themselves, and that is because they (the Powers that Be) want to complete what they started regarding the destruction of the family unit, and demoralising the men is the best way to do this. If we decide to follow the negative aspects of what the feminists demand, then those instigating this will win all the sooner!
Men are by no means perfect, but they can take more sh!t than women can on average and this is a problem to those who wish to bring down the current state of affairs.
Sometimes holding the moral high ground is a luxury you can’t afford , the lessons from history are there. Pre WW2 the British tried to be friends with Adolf Hitler , Neville Chamberlain PM went on a peace mission , came back waving a piece of paper and proclaimed that “Mr Hitler is a nice man he won’t go to war , look he signed an agreement “
We all know what happened then , these feminist Marxist of today are no better that the Hitlers Nazis.
Okay, now you are just being silly. Neville Chamberlain never liked Hitler. When Hitler and Stalin started WW2, they did so out of a shared animosity towards the liberal international order (not unlike China and Russia today, with Russia now securing itself as a client state to China).
The Gender Studies ladies lack the emotional stability and maturity to actually do real harm. They have peaked and need to be escorted back to their little sub-communities. They are not going to invade neighboring countries any time soon.
What you are saying is simply not the way to win. The West has always won on virtue and honor. This is why Chinese-funded campaigns to malign our history (colonial studies and the like) are so nefarious. We have been led to believe that our ancestors were monsters, when in reality they were Great Men (and Women) of the highest order. Degrading our behavior is how we devolve back into monkeys, not how we advance civilization. Besides, the kind of women you point out are in the minority, moreover a tiny minority.
Here, here. The last thing we need are even more whining pathetic losers. Here in the US our Republican party has been mimicking the worst of the Progressives (ie some variation of "Poor me!"). There are no adults left to vote for.
This is actually - potentially - a good thing: when there is no-one left to vote for, it finally allows us to reinvent the system from the ground up, hopefully to become a better version of what has gone before.
If course, we (as a population) must choose to do the hard work to achieve this; we can also choose to do nothing and see where we end up.
Great article Bettina. I am aware of a case in which this abuse was applied directly to a man by a psychologist he had visited for trauma counselling. He was the victim of a violent assault from a former partner and after reporting the incident to police, was promptly arrested and charged with assault. The reason given? Because in defending himself he admitted grabbing her arms to prevent being struck. Let that sink in first of all....
Then, being lumbered with so called, protective bail conditions, his abusive former partner initiated a dialogue claiming she wanted to withdraw her complaint and charges. The result, as you can imagine, was that the man was arrested again and this time thrown in gaol for two months. Finally gaining bail he was placed on home detention with monitoring and the whole ankle bracelet. He endured that for a further six months, which is the limit the WA governemt can impose such conditions, then they threw him back in gaol for a further two months.
The end result was that the police withdrew the charges finally....two days prior to trial.....after he repeatedly refused to plead guilty to lesser charges they offered. I don't need to explain to anyone how wrong that is and that it sounds positively dystopian.
However, it was what he described while trying to seek counselling support when on the home detention bail that shocked me the most. Upon arriving for his appointment ( that the authorities had harrassed his ability to go to to begin with) as soon has he sat down in the female psychologists office and tried to speak, he broke down sobbing uncontrollably. He described trying to speak and explain why he was there but could not stop crying and sobbing. He said he would not have said one coherent sentence for five minutes when the psychologist asked if he had suicidal feelings or had thought of self harming etc. Shocked, he said no, and tried to articulate the stress he was under with the oppressive conditions imposed by Community Corrections officers who managed and imposed the bail conditions.
The psych offered to call them and discuss, suggesting that she may be able to get the, to back off a little. He felt uncomfortable with the suggestion yet she persisted and eventually he agreed. A phone call ensued in his presence and while he could hear the psych obviously, he could not hear who she was speaking to. After a minute or so he said he started to relax a little and calm down. Being lulled by the conversation which appeared to be having some positive influence given it was coming from a mental health professional and not just him complaining for a change. He felt heard he said.
The session continued and he described feeling much better at the end of the session. Upon leaving, positive affirmations were offered by the psych and he got in his car to drive back to work. It was an hours drive and he said he felt the best and most positive he had since the nightmare began six months previous. However, within minutes of arriving back at his business premises (a very public and busy service business to a small local community), a police car pulled into the parking area and came to a sudden stop, diagonally in the middle of the car park. Two fully armed officers step out, wearing, what he described as full combat kit, sidearms, bullet proof vests etc and begin walking towards him. Both with their hand resting on the butt of their firearms holstered on their belt.
He said it naturally sent him into a spiralling panic. In full view of many of his customers and staff, in the full view of the public in the middle of the carpark. He thought they were there to arrest him again and were taking him back to gaol. But he had no idea why. He said he just remembers saying "No, no, I haven't done anything." The officers were loudly telling him to calm down while looking at him somewhat strangely.
Aftr a few minutes it is established that the officers were despatched by the Community Corrections staff to conduct a mental health welfare check due to him telling the psych he was suicidal and had considered driving into a tree. A later conversation with the psych revealed she had made another phone call to Community Corrections after he had left the surgery where these things were discussed.
At no stage did he ever raise suicide or self harm as a subject. The female psych proposed this and then off it went down the rabbit hole to Wonderland from there. This was on of the most eggregious breaches of trust I had ever heard of by a health professional and personally she should be thrown out of the profession. I am not sure whether he has pursued a complaint against but I dare say, he has a fair idea what the likely outcome would be and doesn't want to expose himself to further institutional abuse.
The collusion at all levels of government and service delivery by these feminist zealots, aided by policies and fake research such as MARAM and the AIFS is beyond the pail......this stuff needs to stop. Immediately.
Psychologists are a dangerous part of this mix... many are incompetent, and even more are biased against men. Thanks for sharing that dreadful story.
Your essay was a quite an epiphany for just how deep and how broad this insidious conspiracy for relational dominance and power has become.
Thank you Bettina…. Your tireless advocacy for decency and respect as a minimum standard for everyone is something all Australian men shall be forever indebted to you for.
Interesting that you should say that about psychologists , it raises the question ‘just how well educated and trained are they ? No doubt the majority are women and some could be just DEI placements. Like most university courses the standards have been lowered to allow for the big influx of young people who in the past would not be there , as well as overseas students bringing in revenue.
To be a good psychologist I imagine requires high intelligence and intellect, empathy and compassion apart from the years of hard work studying just to be qualified , before work experience hones the person into a “professional “.
Often courts depend on psychologists reports to decide on cases like child custody , but who could be sure they are truely experienced professionals with high standards and ethics ?
The shift in psychology is towards prioritising the safety/welfare of everyone apart from the male client.
Astonishing yet all too believable.
Never take a plea deal if you are innocent… I feel so sorry for him
I completely understand. Please read my initial comment above for reference for what I'm about to say.
My eldest son is autistic. Most of the time he is quite reasonable, but he is now properly medicated. We can't always be sure he is taking his medication as he does get a bit dysregulated when we pressure him.
We currently live in our own home, a townhouse in a complex of 20. Most of the people living here know our and another resident's situations. Yep, two families with autistic kids, both of them aren't the poster child type, both get verbally abusive and potentially violent and destructive when they dysregulate. For us this is less of a frequent thing due to the high level of medication our son is now on.
I have called the police twice due to the escalation my son has experienced, both times were when my wife had lost self control and she was also getting quite angry. I remove myself from the home and call the police. I am no good to anyone if arrested. Each time I do this, I get real PTSD feelings. The last time I was quite off my block and trembling quite drastically.
The last time this happened, the police stated that they couldn't do anything to help me as this was a domestic situation between myself, my wife and our son. They suggested that the next time something like this happened, I should call an ambulance, major trigger for me.
It happened again, I called the ambulance. Again, the police came. The stress was beyond anything bearable, but I held it together. My son was taken away, my wife went with him. Now, 8 weeks after that night, both my wife and I are in crisis care, we are now recognised as living with family violence, sadly my son is the perpetrator. We have a team of two psychologists, one psychiatrist and hopefully soon we will meet the pediatrician who is also on the team. There is also another doctor and other mental health professionals on the team.
Why did and does it take so much trauma for us guys to get help, why are we pushed so far till near breaking point before we are listened to.
I feel for your friend, I understand how he feels, it's horrible.
Thank you for sharing such a personal story Chris. My heart aches for you and your family. Unfortunately, you and your wife live the daily torment of a society that culturally shifted to insist that your son deserves to be treated as if he was a fully functioning, autonomous human being, rather than a poor helpless soul, condemned to be imprisoned for life inside a severely autistic body, never capable of independent function.
I don’t have the answers but I struggle to understand why society thinks that condemning you, your wife and the rest of your family to the same metaphorical prison is in any way compassionate, empathetic or fair.
My heart goes out to you all.
This is standard divorce practice and the lawyers tell women to play this trick.
And you casually offer this insight because.... it's no big deal? Or, people should accept it as a reasonable norm?
Please, help me out here. I am having difficulty finding the merit of your insight?
It’s very evil and no casual insight.
You’ll forgive my somewhat abrupt tone. Such is the relative indifference to men’s suffering in such examples by almost all women (regardless of whether they agree with or are non subscribers to the feminist narrative) and a bizarrely high percentage of men, it was difficult to discern the tone of your comment.
That and I am very likely overly tuned to jumping on attitudes that lack humanity on the DV debate.
I appreciate your clarification.
I put in in cold neutral facts, suppressing feeling as one should when facing vile evil. The evil get off on outrage and pain, it’s their motive.
It’s like dealing with criminals or enemies in war; never show fear or disgust.
Western Australia is a police state and a feminist stronghold since the infamous feminist Carmen Laurence was Premier. The judiciary is corrupt , judges and magistrates do as they are told , the outcome of most cases is predetermined regardless of the evidence . Police often kill citizens in very dubious circumstances but are never charged , the system closes ranks and protects its own .
Slightly off topic but I was motivated to send this to the ABC's Media Watch:
I refer to last week's Media Watch which lauded the Sydney Morning Herald for withstanding pressure to print the news which may offend the powerful.
Unfortunately this does not extend to comments submitted to its online stories.
I regularly submit comments to The Age/SMH stories and there is one topic on which they routinely disallow comments which challenge their editorial position.
The latest was:
‘Douche bags’: Justin Trudeau takes on the manosphere in Melbourne
Cara Waters
April 25, 2026 — 2:31pm
My rejected comment:
"If there was less vilification of masculinity, young men would not be seeking affirmation in the 'manosphere'.
At a secondary school in Warrnambool boys were told to stand in assembly and apologise for the "behaviours of their gender" to the girls. That kind of thing happened in Germany in the 1930s and 40s, although the distinction was not about gender.
Then there is a meme circulating in which women are asked whether they would rather be stuck on an island with a bear or a man. Many women think it clever to choose the creature which could literally tear them limb from limb. And no, that is not the man.
The13-year-old main character from Netflix global hit Adolescence, commits life-changing violence without remorse when a classmate rejects him. Where did the idea for this story come from? From the zeitgeist whereby boys must apologise for who they are?
The Australian Institute of Criminology has statistics on family violence. One third of the victims of partner violence are men. That is not an insignificant statistic, especially given the reluctance of society to accept that men can be victims as well as perpetrators. And most perpetrators of child homicide in the family are women.
In Victoria we have a Parliamentary Secretary for Men’s Behaviour Change. Only Men. Women's behaviour is apparently fine as it is.
If there was less feminist dominance in discussion of these matters, boys and young men would not be seeking affirmation from people like Andrew Tate."
Keep going Phil
Here here!
Phil, your comment about the Men's Behaviour Change Program ("MBCP") strikes an accord with me. As you state: "only men", when we live in an age of supposed inclusiveness! Why are women denied such a facility, along with LGBQI etc?
Another issue with the MBCP can concern a situation whereby a request from the program leader(s) is for participants to write down their feelings and where they may have erred in their previous behaviours, i.e., that forced them to these sessions in the first place. Once these "confessions" are completed, they then have to be handed in to the supervising folk where they can end up being used at Court via a Subpoena.
The Duluth folk in the State of Minnesota, authors of the MBCP, sure created a big problem.
And the continual news stories claiming men aren't interested in relationships, usually proclaiming men are the issue, or childish, yet all the evidence of women continuously getting their own way, while causing extreme problems for men is the only real reason men are done with women. It ain't because they are gay, childish, or any other reason except a lot of men are fed up with these spoiled brats getting their own way at our expense.
I don't keep a diary on such things, but around 2 yrs ago I respponded RESPECTFULLY to WA Police Posts STRONGLY STATING that they would go and ARREST THE MEN when "Domestic Violence was REPORTED....... Not investigated, just REPORTED. From what I have often read, most DV reports DO NOT INVOLVE PHYSICAL VIOLENCE. The Police at the time, according to their own UNION WAS MASSIVELY UNDERSTAFFED and they couldn't keep recruits for five minutes. Very inexperienced JUDGE AND JURY then???????????? Oh, they BLOCKED ME. Truth hurts.
The war against men is real and ramping up especially in the five eyes countries.
>> The war against men is real and ramping up
Yes (it's always ramping up, that's how their funding works - ever more taxpayer $Billions to keep feminists in cushy jobs)...
>> especially in
Everywhere. Australia, the Commonwealth, India, the third world... Possibly the EU and the Commonwealth as most "especially".
>> the five eyes countries
I've never heard that expression! What does it mean?
Ah! Someone else who's noticed the innumerable mostly female cottage industries funded by gynocentrism and criminalising (CJS) or wealth extraction from men (the Family Court). Not to mention most public service industries. Five Eyes Alliance its sometimes called. It's basically Australia, Canada, New Zealand, the United Kingdom, and the US.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Five_Eyes
A couple of short interesting videos by women on toxic femininity. An interesting statistic. The highest rate of domestic violence is in lesbian relationships.
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/nNy_j2RX_pM
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/T_qtgdIlAag
"I am well aware that men have also suffered under patriarchal (toxic) images of masculinity. Not just gay men..."
That is what a non-binary [biological woman, who had her breasts removed. Who had healthy body parts removed] told me [originally in German, as I live in Switzerland] when I told her that my brother had committed suicide by hanging.
After this encounter, and I am still associated with this person, I keep my mouth shut. I name the things that need to be named and write them in my Journal.
There are a lot of mentally ill and uncaring people on this planet who pretend that they are caring, inclusive and etc., etc.
** I am a gay man and hence that reference by her...
Never trust the police
Excellent article Bettina. The Risk Assessments themselves define expressing intent to self-harm as an act of coercive control, not as the cry for help it is, what, 40-50 tines more likely to be. I have a memory of Barry O'Farrell introducing something similar in NSW as part of his 2012 DV reforms but I can't find the source.
>> The Risk Assessments themselves define expressing intent to self-harm as an act of coercive control,
Only when the intent is expressed by a man. I recall seeing articles in the MSM saying that women expressing intent to self-harm are probably victims of coercive control. The double-standard is sickening.
Fortunately, one relevant article actually came up for me today, and I've posted it further down the thread!
In the UK, in 2017, a man was accused of driving his wife to suicide by "coercive contro", "dv" etc...
It took until 2026 for him to clear his name, by proving that his wife's allegations were all false, and that all-along he had been the victim of her unidirectional abuse.
https://www.dailymail.com/crime-desk/article-15732957/Husband-not-guilty-driving-wife-suicide.html
So true. I have heard numerous accounts from men of discovering their ex had been spreading malicious gossip amongst mutual friends networks that he had been making self harm threats as a way of eliciting guilt/control.
How twisted do you have to be to engage in such harmful lies??
"I have yet to see a suicide attempt by a man with a good sex life."
'Sons of Feminism: Men Have Their Say' Edited by Janice Fiamengo (2018)
page 32
Not only did I make the link between suicidal people and their propensity towards violence, I did this some years ago, well before 2018. I am just a thinker, no real qualifications, but as a survivor of an attempt, I and others like me have a semi unique understanding of what it's like, and I'm willing to share this.
Stop.
That is the intention. While there are infinite unique reasons as to why a person will make an attempt, there is one single motive and that is to find a way to stop. Stop everything. This intention then brings up several basic instincts, your brain isn't operating correctly, your brain is designed to do everything possible to keep you alive, you are trying to override the most basic human function, exist. Yes, anger, frustration and other words could be used here, but for me they don't come anyway near what it really feels like. I can completely understand if a person was likely to lash out and exert violence on another, this would surely be the time, especially so if the stop involved another person who was causing the situation, not always the case though.
I survived.
1/09/2018. I'm married, we have an autistic son, we have a neurotypical son, we have a business and we were renting. Things weren't good. My wife was close to shutting down, I was trying my best to help her, my chosen way was to support her with a parenting course due to the fact that she was having such a difficult time with our as it was then undiagnosed son.
She made an attempt. I called an ambulance. I also did probably the most important thing I have ever done in my life, and I highly recommend any bloke out there do the same. I called my closest female friend and asked her to come around and look after our kids who were asleep.
A knock on the door. The police. They explained to me that they had heard the call for the ambulance and thought they would check up and see if everything was alright. BULL FUCKING SHIT was what was going through my mind. A carefully orchestrated play began playing out. Two police stayed down stairs with me, the two ambulance paramedics went up stairs with the other two police.
What happened next is totally despicable. Here's me, my wife whom I love more than life itself is upstairs experiencing the worst moment of her life, I was just about to experience mine.
I was grilled for what seemed like forever. I remember my friend, Sue, standing up to the police stating that she had known me for over 20 years and that I was a danger to no one. Sue told them to back off. She also told me that I needed to remain calm or at least as calm as I could as the police were not there to help. They wanted an arrest.
When my wife was brought downstairs, I was asked to move to the furthest part of the room, two police officers stood between me and my wife and instructed me not to even make eye contact with her. My wife was taken out to the ambulance. A while later two of the police came back in and said that for the moment they had no further questions and for me not to make contact. A person would call me.
I was then left with my two sons who were under the age of ten at the time. Weird due to what had just gone down.
There is more to this story and it's equally as terrifying. The one thing that never happened, well two other things. I have never been asked if I was OK after this event. Not by the police, not by the hospital, not by the psychologist who grilled me the day after, no one. It is 8 years later and it still haunts me, I just have to live with it. The second thing, no support was offered to my wife, none. I had to find that support, for her and even when I found that support, no one there asked me if I was OK either.
Perhaps this. Perhaps we actually start to give a fuck about men and what they go through, maybe then things will get better and we wouldn't have to have these draconian measures to protect 2/3s of the population at the expense of the other 1/3d.
Oh, the UNSW has proven that a majority of male DV reoffending is committed by men who are living with undiagnosed, underdiagnosed, un treated or under treated mental and or psychological health issues. The cost to lock one of these guys up is around $150,000pa and at least one victim, the cost to treat these guys with an effectiveness of around 40% is a remarkable $7,000 pa with no reoffending, no victim. The NSW government who funded the study threw the results out as the feminist bunch refused to accept that DV was a result of mental and psychological illness.
Well, fuck me, the NSW government now has blood on it's hands.
Sorry this was so long.
I am so sorry you went through all this, Chris. A shocking story. Interesting that it was back in 2018. Obviously these policies have been part of the system a lot longer than I thought.
Thanks Bettina. We know a policeman who clearly stated that this practice was absolutely in their play book. All they were after was an arrest so they could bang their chests in celebration.
Yeah… I have similar stories from 2008 directly impacting myself, and am aware of similar prior….
As for the post:-
A suicidal man can hurt women. Where their mother, partner, daughters care for them, their suicide/passing causes injuries to the women emotionally.
Attending to the needs of the men, treating them, saving them, prevents the injury.
The weird thing. Some news agencies are reporting that DV and other problems are on the increase. There is a very simply way to stem this increase. Care for men.
Every day i read the news and listen to it on the radio. Yesterday the ABC news reported that even when going to bed, a woman's work isn't complete. Um, yeah. Today the news was that 1 in 7 women believe that they weren't properly diagnosed by their doctor. This kind of stuff happens every day and often more than once. Men are bad, women are oppressed, it's all men's fault. No wonder why men are retaliating.
Oh, our eldest son is autistic with a dose of ADHD and probably other things as well. It took us over 7 years and thousands of dollars to finally get the diagnosis. When we got it, it was like a watershed moment. Things have actually got worse since then, mostly because of the fact that I, a male, am the primary carer and organiser for my son's situation.
Oh sweet Jesus! I have only just read this part of your story Chris, I was scratching my head as to what you meant in your other note.
Mate, nothing I can say is remotely adequate.
All I can offer you is that ear to listen and talk if are prepared to. I’m aware how difficult you may now find it to trust after that amount of time and the repeated and intentional efforts to invalidate your experience. Even if you aren’t quite ready or able and just want to shoot the breeze, DM me any time and I’ll forward a number so we speak if you wish.
I’ll drop you a quick line now just the same.
You’re an admirable man of considerable resolve mate. Believe it or not, you will have helped others like you by sharing as you have. Thanks mate. 👌
Thank you, your offer is very kind.
As you now have read both, but still only part of my story, I do need to tell you that finally, after two situations where the police were called for my son and the final one when an ambulance was called, we have finally managed to find some, well the help that we should have received many years ago. The team helping us is growing, we have two psychologists, both make (this is very important), a psychiatrist, a pediatrician and a regular doctor all working in and as a team to work through our current situation. We are making progress, however how hard we, I had to push to get this far is inhumane. Many parents just give up.
The divorce rate for parents like us is way higher than the background rate, some 40-50% higher. It is my belief that this is because of the lack of support for the fathers.
I am preparing to speak with our local politician who already knows our situation. Hopefully we can make some changes.
I do need to say this though, the research that i do into how badly men are treated in situations like mine is horrendous. So many broken families, so much PTSD, it's been likened to being a front line soldier in an unrelenting war. It literally never stops. It's not surprising to me, the news about that family in WA, the double murder/suicide. Their kids were autistic, they had money, it didn't surprise me, it will happen again.
bed for me now, i have been working since 6am, it's now 10;20pm.
Listening to the radio today, SAFM, playing all the hate men songs!……..pretty lame.
Where the communist failed to integrate their opperatives into the public service, Feminists have achieved that with a huge amount of success.
Controlling not only the AIHW but also the AIFS, Relationships Australia, and the Institute of Criminology.
Look at emilyslist.org.au there is a US & UK version too.
I’m not entirely sure the hand of communist/socialist states hasn’t played a role in the indoctrination of militant feminists and their subsequent take over of specific elements of the bureaucracy.
The historic links to communist movements and feminists, both here and in places like the US are well documented.
So now men are not only blamed for being suicidal; their vulnerability means they might harm someone else. I'm a writer who's worked with mental health specialists over the years and I never heard that one mentioned clinically. The narrative is crazy.
This is the direction psychology is currently taking with men and boys. The male clients' needs are secondary to those of everybody else.
Funny how my comment is ignored because I've got a wog name.
Same as Queensland police and the female narrative, it's so outlandish it must be false.
Exactly the reason men are ignored while we tell the truth.... With an element of racism thrown in on top.