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Sophia's avatar

When I was a little girl, I always imagined rape cases would be about a young, good woman being forced out of her home, dragged and attacked. Now that I’m 21, I realize the allegations we hear are almost always from women who have already engaged in degenerate behavior and then try to frame themselves as women of character. It’s just crazy, the infantilization — if it’s a child, then it’s all the adult’s fault, which makes sense because children are never at fault. But if it’s an adult, both sides should be questioned including the accuser, but the reality is that the woman is treated like a child. It’s gross. No wonder they used to do character checks on the women. An honorable, untouched, chaste woman is never the victim in these stories, and God, I hate that these degenerate women always try to frame themselves as virtuous.

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TC's avatar

What hope is there for justice if a man and his family’s life can be upended and ruined simply on a woman’s say so https://www.dublinlive.ie/news/dublin-news/dublin-firefighter-terence-crosbie-found-32747609

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JK Forest's avatar

Across the board these accusers love the attention.

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Pythia's avatar

What bias are you speaking of? It seems the justice system did its job properly and acquitted these men. Innocent until proven guilty, and they could not be proven guilty. What is the problem?

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Sean Griobhtha's avatar

“Jesus of Nazareth, when considered as the Christ, was God’s gift to humanity, to live and die as a human. Being human means sexual activity (GASP!) Jesus hung out almost exclusively with the poor and downtrodden. He was very friendly with women, especially prostitutes. He also traveled for days on end with 12 other young men, picking peaches and eating from fields, and resting in groups. NO ONE, who is presented as a normal healthy human, grows to an age of 33(?) years without having an orgasm, or sexual interaction with other humans. Why must this be silenced? What is the major fucking problem with Mary having sex, because she’s also human and gets horny; why must an asinine story be made up that she was raped by a holy spirit? WTF?!?”

https://griobhtha1.substack.com/p/x-rubicon-learning-to-fly

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Sean Griobhtha's avatar

“Women talk amongst themselves about masturbation and orgasm, if they have lost their own repressions; but women in general have been known to be lying for a very long time about masturbation. Women’s magazine surveys have made it quite clear; and amateur porn makes it quite clear; and men’s experience with women makes it quite clear that women as well masturbate and orgasm upon demand — self-demand.”

https://griobhtha1.substack.com/p/x-rubicon-learning-to-fly

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Some Anon's avatar

I left my marriage after I'd cheated and she'd punched me in the head in my sleep.

After I'd fled, miserable and guilt-ridden at having failed her, I found out that she was campaigning to make it so I'd punched her and had even raped her.

Ironically, she picked, for her story, the night when she'd forced me into sex with threats. Probably this is how she sincerely remembers it 80% of the time.

Anyway, since I'd fled, was still young, had no reliable family and couldn't bring myself, through the feelings if failed responsibility, to run my own campaign, I spent the time alone, fully demonised, elsewhere, building a new life for myself.

It's still devastating to reflect on what I've lost, and shocking to reminisce about how much it hurt, but, other than having my warm stories ,about old friends that I no longer know, end abruptly, I am grateful. Those friends did what I needed them to do, which was make sure she was ok. She did what she needed to do to survive. I myself got to learn a lot about the world and my place in it.

Other than with a couple of psychologists over time, and a few strangers in social situations straight after, when I was completely alone, I have not shared this with anyone. Why? Because it hurts to do so, because I don't need to, but perhaps mostly because I don't want the practical awfulness of suspicion following me.

This is all to say that it can be ok, but also I really appreciated this article. Thank you!

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FFP's avatar

Quite mad. A ludicrous industry.

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Ian Guthrie's avatar

what you write about is heartbreaking for me, I find it very hard to read but appreciate very much your journalism and projects to help, not just men but also women from the damaging behaviors of some women. Thank you.

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Piers's avatar

"Despite this, Canadian feminists are seething and seeking legislative change trying to ban consent videos from evidence in such trials." There's no link here - who specifically is saying this?

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Doug Morse's avatar

In a sick and twisted way it seems some are saying the boys 'asked for it'.

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Daniel Solow's avatar

People used to say "no means no" and that made sense to me. But it is clear that the message is now, "Women should not have to say no. It is too hard to say no. Men should just know how to treat women. Women should not be required to advocate for themselves." But everyone should advocate for themselves! When I was younger I thought feminism was trying to encourage women to advocate for themselves more, but it seems to be having the opposite effect.

The culture encourages women to engage in risky sexual behavior, telling them it will be empowering. Often they do not find the result empowering and they feel shame and guilt. They do not have the language of accountability ("I made a mistake"), they are reluctant to view it as a failed experiment ("Maybe I'm one of the women for whom this kind of thing isn't empowering"), all they have left is the language of criminal accusation.

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Notes from the Under Dog L.'s avatar

In the allegedly superior to patriarchy matriarchy, the goal posts for offenses have been moved to the point of wasting time and money on HURT FEELINGS. Racism. Rape. Ironically, what the past several years' hysteria will beget is women not being taken seriously which they hue and cry was the case in the past.

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RK's avatar

I'm not sure most women in America even appreciate how easily, how **effortlessly** they can destroy a man. And at least here in the USA, it doesn't matter if the man is found not guilty. The process is the punishment and the accusation will hang with him for the rest of his life.

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Phillip Hickox's avatar

For at least 4 decades, there have been incremental changes in laws concerning "sexual assault".

Changes in definition

Changes in what can be presented as evidence

Changes in how the trial is conducted

Changes in what is considered consent

All this is aimed at increasing the conviction rate of heterosexual men. In effect, these changes are only aimed at making it impossible for men who are accused of sexual assault to be found innocent. Turning these cases into Stalin Show Trials.

Criminal Defence Lawyers Joseph Neuberger, Michael Bury, and legal researcher Diana Davison present Not on Record, a YouTube channel.

In one of the videos, Joseph talks about false allegations and starts to present his experience in the percentage of "false allegations" The video is edited at this point, and what he believes is the actual number of false allegations is cut out. (It was not edited by the Not on Record team because they were unaware that it had happened.)

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