Over twenty years ago, federal member of parliament Greg Wilton took his own life. The tragedy was the culmination of a series of events which highlight how poorly we deal with vulnerable men. Three weeks earlier, Wilton had been found “in a distressed state” with his children in a car in the national park, apparently rigging a hose to the exhaust. It was widely reported as an attempted murder-suicide.
He spent time in psychiatric care, but with his Labor colleagues maneuvering to force him out of parliament and relentless hounding from the press, it wasn’t long before he tried again. This time he succeeded. On June 14, 2000, the 44-year was found dead in his car, with the exhaust hose attached.
A few years earlier Wilton had given a speech to parliament pointing out that group most likely to commit suicide in this country were men like him – adult males struggling with marital separation. He mentioned extensive research that had emerged over previous years showing “men kill themselves due to an inability to cope with life events such as relationship breakups of the kind I myself have suffered.”
In the two decades since then, that research has piled up. The case is now overwhelming that men facing relationship breakdown should be a key target of Australia’s suicide prevention policies.
There’s no way our health bureaucrats are going to let that happen. The March 2022 budget allocated $2.1 billion to services for women and girls and just $1 million to “improve long term health outcomes” for men and boys. Isn’t that extraordinary? Somehow females are seen as deserving of 2000 times more investment in their health than men, despite their more robust health resulting in four extra years of life expectancy.
What a tribute to the mighty efforts of our feminist health bureaucracy which for decades has strenuously ignored the enormous elephant sitting in their room - namely, the ever-increasing male suicide rate wiping out so many younger adult males.
Suicide is the leading cause of death for people aged 25-44. Male vulnerability is at the heart of the problem. Look at these statistics:
· Men account for 3 in 4 of the lives lost to suicide.
· 7 of the 9 people who kill themselves every day are male.
· There have always been more male than female suicides.
· Over the past ten years males have become even more at risk.
· The male suicide rate is twice the annual road toll.
Men wiping themselves out is a hugely important health issue – yet there’s a very good reason why our politicians and feminist bureaucrats don’t want to go there. As Greg Wilton pointed out, the evidence is piling up that a key reason many of these young men are at risk is they are casualties of family breakup.
The consequent minefield that hits these men, who are frequently fathers, often proves unbearable. Most face some combination of stressful legal battles, false accusations, crippling child support payments; financial ruin and most importantly, the loss of their children.
Young farmer on the edge
Marty Grant could have been one such casualty. He had it all planned. The tough young farmer from the West Australian wheat belt had the wire around his neck. The other end was tied to a tree and the car ready to surge into motion. But he stopped himself. “I realized I couldn’t do it to my family and friends.” Marty pulled back, drove himself home, packed a bag and set off to seek help from the local nurse.
I wrote about Marty many years ago in an article on bush suicide for the Australian Women’s Weekly, covering all the stresses these farmers were going through, including crippling drought, dropping commodity prices, succession problems. But it took some doing to persuade the magazine editors to let me tackle the major suicide research issue emerging at that time – family breakdown. It was the loss of his loved ones which pushed Marty over the edge. His partner took off because she didn’t want to be a farmer’s wife, and then the son from a previous relationship – a child Marty had cared for a decade as a single parent - went off to live with his mum. Marty’s family disappeared.
This was the type of story highlighted in research published around that time by the Australian Institute for Suicide Research and Prevention at Griffith University which found relationship breakdown to be the main trigger for suicide, with male risk four times that of females.
According to the researchers Drs Chris Cantor and Pierre Baume, men are most vulnerable in the period immediately after separation – with separation from children a major source of their despair.
Ignoring a key trigger point
That’s a red flag, crying out for suicide prevention intervention. Just think what usually happens when we discover one of these trigger points. Like mothers at risk of suicide due to post-partum depression. When that first made the news, support groups got to work, government funding started pouring in, and now prevention programs are everywhere.
Currently the federal government is targeting anorexic girls. Wham, the latest suicide funding promised $20 million for eating disorder treatment services. Then there’s indigenous suicide. Righty-o. They’ve come up with $79 million in the budget for that one.
Yet for the last two decades there has been absolutely no government funding to follow up Cantor and Baume’s work on vulnerable divorcing men, even though recent Griffith University research still shows relationship difficulties to be the major triggering life event, accounting for 42.5 % of suicides. The Australian Bureau of Statistics data lists relationship disruptions/problems as the key suicide psychological risk factors after self-harm, which is more a symptom of distress than a trigger.
But this key issue never features in the public narrative. Instead, we are presented with carefully constructed red herrings. Remember the lavish 2016 ABC television program, Man Up, which spent three episodes claiming we need to teach suicidal men to show their feelings. Hours of television about men having to learn to cry, but not a word about what they were crying about.
Then they announced a mental health expert, Christine Morgan, as National Suicide Prevention Officer, and followed up with $5.6 million from mental health funding to encourage men to seek help. Don’t they love this new diversion, focussing on encouraging men to rid themselves of their toxic masculinity and show their softer side?
But the fact is that even though many suicidal men have mental health problems, our authorities are strenuously ignoring the key event which might push them over the edge. Data from the Queensland Suicide register shows that 42% of men who die by suicide have a mental health diagnosis but 98% have experienced a recent life event, such as relationship breakdown.
Most of the suicide funding goes to women
Given the ongoing male suicide crisis, it is an absolute scandal that our suicide policies are still proudly “gender neutral” with up to 4 of 5 beneficiaries female, according to analysis by the Australian Men’s Health Forum. Read the case AMHF makes for a male suicide prevention strategy here.
Yet finally there are tiny green shoots appearing midst the ongoing gloom. In January this year Suicide Prevention Australia, the peak body for suicide prevention organisations, announced that “it’s time to talk about male suicide prevention.”
“Of the 3,000 lives tragically lost to suicide each year, over 75% are men. They are our husbands and fathers, our brothers and uncles, our colleagues and friends”, wrote CEO Nieves Murray, announcing they were pushing for an “ambitious male suicide prevention strategy,” guided by “the evidence” and “addressing underlying issues that might lead men to the point of crisis,” and actually mentioning support for men in family courts.
The Morrison government announced last November that some suicide prevention funding would be targeted at risk groups including men but didn’t manage to get this up before the election. No doubt the health bureaucrats have no interest in rushing this one through and it’s hard to imagine this happening if a Labor/Green government gets into power.
Look what happened after Pauline Hanson had the guts to speak out about false allegations and bias against men when appointed Deputy Chair of the recent parliamentary inquiry into family law. She was ripped apart in the media and her Labor/Green committee members stymied any hope of addressing these issues, despite hundreds of submissions documenting how men are being done over.
Tackling male suicide means highlighting the way the family law system is now weaponised against men. This will attract huge resistance from the feminist mob controlling our media, so adept at cowering politicians into inaction. But too many people now know and care about what’s driving so many men to take their lives. The time is right for a mighty campaign to galvanise public opinion and demand real change. Watch this space.
Melbourne tutor facing fresh attack
Finally, a brief postscript bringing you the latest on the case involving the tutor who was fired from a Melbourne university for sexual harassment late last year. Many of you were kind enough to donate to our crowd funder which supported this young man – I called him “Chris” - through an unfair dismissal case, which sadly went nowhere.
Now he’s dealing with a new crisis. Chris has not been near the young woman since last year, yet this malicious little miss has put in an application for a violence protection order against him using her ludicrous harassment allegations to claim he could be a risk to her. As we all know, it is very easy for a woman to set up breaches of such an order, which can result in a criminal record, or even imprisonment.
Chris is now facing a fresh round of legal action to challenge the order, so we are urgently looking for a Melbourne lawyer experienced with DV matters – please contact me if you have any suggestions. And here’s a link to our new fundraiser to cover potential legal costs and support for poor Chris who has really been through the mill.
You may remember that gofundme took down our original fundraiser. We are now using GiveSendGo, a recommended platform which happens to be Christian but also non-woke. Note this is a free fundraiser but to avoid fees you must be careful in the section asking for an optional gift to GiveSendGo to go to the bottom of the dropdown menu and click “other” and also put 0 in the box labelled “AUD$” on the right.
Please help if you can. We can't allow a vicious woman get away with using our laws to destroy this innocent man.
In Australia in 2020,
Suicides:
Men: 2384, Women: 755, Gender Imbalance = 1629 men
Intimate Partner Murder:
Men: 9, Women: 34, Gender Imbalance = 25 women
But we all know that men are disposable—their lives are worth less than women’s, right? And therefore, the tragic deaths of those 25 women is a national emergency, but the tragic deaths of those 1629 men needs to be swept under the rug, right?
We should be spending much more money and effort on preventing those 25 female deaths than on preventing those 1629 male deaths, right?
https://www.aic.gov.au/sites/default/files/2022-03/sr39_homicide_in_australia_2019-20.pdf
https://lifeinmind.org.au/about-suicide/suicide-data/suicide-facts-and-stats
As an old woman I have watched for years as the feminist movement have slowly but surely demeaned our men to the stage our men do not know where they fit in society. I have seen my middle aged and beautiful son mentally and financially destroyed the anxiety causing him to have a stroke at 54. The light that shone from this wonderful man had gone out long before the stroke but the love for his son who has been totally brain washed against him and his extended family has never faded. This narcissistic woman took out an AVO against him with absolute lies encouraged by her solicitor and believed by the court regardless of what my son said denying the allegations which just hurt him so much again mentally and his little business suffered....men trying to fight the family court for their children, financial consideration or fairness generally have no hope what so ever. Whilst he is down medically the family court has decided to sell his home for back payments due to his ill health and inability to pay momentarily...he had never not paid when he had good work but needed time....... the settlement to her was over one million dollars. This very decent human being has been so close to suicide fortunately his small family have been there to save him from this disgraceful system and the many disgraceful anti men women who work in the family court departments that treat men like dirt. Of course I do not in any way agree with violence of any kind however when a good man is put up against the wall with guns aiming at him what is he to do retaliate with violence sadly or just end his life so there is no further problem .....and the latter is occurring far more than the public are aware. Women can be the most evil of humanity even to using physical abuse to entice retaliation and then call the Police who believe the woman but the mental cruelty is by far the worst....I was in the Court when she lied and lied and the Magistrate believed every word she said. I try to talk to every one I can to enlighten them re what the feminists have been doing for years trying to totally destroy men but the public are not really interested unless it affects them or they realise it can affect them...so very sad. I abhor any form of violence as does my son but the frivolous reporting has inferred that all men are violent which is so far from the truth time to ask why is there violence. We must stop this vindictiveness against our men....the equal opportunity has gone to the ridiculousness ....let’s make our beautiful men important again.
There is no excuse for what this young woman is doing the law must stand up and stop this insidious type of behaviour as the blame lays at the law makers feet.
Thankyou Bettina there are so many of us so grateful for your work.
Cheers.
Loving Mum Marcia