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Tony Ryan's avatar

First, Bettina, may I reiterate my gratitude for your campaign of justice for oppressed men. You are gem among women and a moral giant among Australians

For a decade I was a government welfare officer and had a vast oversight of domestic situations and was, of course, paid to analyse research from around the world. The biggest study ever undertaken on domestic violence found that 80% of domestic violence was "initiated by women". The word "initiated" was clearly defined as the person who first applied a knife, gun or other weapon" to their partner. This was probably the most unpopular study ever done LOL. But it tallied with my overview of domestic violence in the NT.

After I left the public service (forced to withdraw by rampant corruption), my wife asked me to become a "house husband" while she studied and worked full time. One year became three and so I became quite expert on being the stay-at-home parent. It infuriated my wife that her friends constantly commented on how clean and tidy the home was". I won't be dogmatic on this but I noticed that men were better organised than women in this role. Contrary to the then oft-heard claim that women were forced to become vegetables thus enslaved and isolated in the house, between Little Athletics, kids basket ball, and time to listen to the (still educatonal in those days) ABC, I was right up to date with current events and issues. A vegetable I was not.

Basically, I learned that stay-at-home-mums had a pretty cushy existence. But the most important thing I learned was that no matter how dedicated the dad, we men cannot replace mothers. There is an invisible chain that connects babies to their mothers for the rest of their lives, especially for girls. That role is the only regret I have in my life. My kids suffered emotionally and psychologically from the absence of their mother, regardless of age. So, if one day, I fling a few thousand feminists into slave camps for the criminally insane, you will know where I am coming from.

One final comment: all this talk about domestic work load share is pure bullshit. Comparisons never include the work men do outside the house. This includes the usual breaking in of a new block of land, installations of gardens, lawns, a shed, fencing, tree planting, and maintenance of the family car. Other wives were more labour-sharing but mine contributed two days in 25 years to outside work, but demanded I share 50/50 inside roles. She was, of course, a feminist.

Aussie guys... marry a woman from outside the feminist ambit.

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Andrew's avatar

Thanks as always Bettina for being brave enough to speak truth. I despair at the continue stream of lies/falsehoods that we are constantly bombarded with. The lies continue to be stated, despite contradiction, until they appear to become "truth". The gaslighting of Moira Deeming was beyond belief. Men continue to be maligned at ever turn. They have been disenfranchised and those teenager boys that missed to years of schooling are now running around causing havoc and playing the system. It was easy to foresee.

Please keep up the battle. Surely people will realise what is happening. We are destroying our society.

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