As someone who has a doctorate in this area, specifically coercive control within contexts of IPV, coercive control is predominately, maybe 99% perpetrated by men towards women. Coercive control itself is an extension of gender inequality, which also explains why it is most frequently perpetrated by heterosexual men. In coercive control, the intention is to dominate, control and entrap a survivor within the relationship--utilizing systematic resources, that have been built by men, to uphold gender inequality. It is not only entrapment within the relationship, but entrapment by a system that limits resources for women. Additionally, coercive control has the most devastating effects for women, with increasing their risk of intimate partner homicide by 9 fold. Did you know 1 in 3 women murdered are killed by their intimate partner, with close to 100% of these women reporting coercive controlling behaviors by their partner before their murder. This platform you've created sends an inaccurate message of how coercive control manifests within the relationship context. While I am not saying it could NEVER exist, this shifts the focus and resources away from those who are most greatly impacted.
Great campaign by MoS and your 2nd article flows seamlessly from the first.
Bettina, at what point do you think you’ll be able to “publish” a book (maybe only an eBook) on your Substack posts… “Bettina Arndt’s Substack compendium? This would undoubtedly cause a backlash, but though the negative response it would reach out to those who support Boys, Men and Fathers rights but have so far been silent. Too soon?
That the campaign incited a vehement response from the woke left /snowflakes has gained it the publicity and creditability that it may have otherwise lacked. Even the myopic misandristic reporting gives credence to the MoS contentions and articulates that men can also be (equally) victims of coercive control and that males are being deliberately targeted by the woke /marxist left.
Hi B, great to hear you got the reactions you did on the day, as stated a lot of these laws that are passed concerning “strengthening” Domestic Violence laws etc go un-noticed except when someone is accused of breaching these laws then it’s just a world of hurt & confusion to say the least! I think most people think laws are passed & have an inherent sense of “fair play” nothing could be further from the truth, keep on keeping on Dx
This story from Surry, England, illustrates the problem with such laws. There has been an offense of Coercive Control here for some years. In this tale of a policewoman using this law to get rid of one partner because she has an affair with a new man. Of particular interest to MOS was the role of this man's mother in the detective work that proved his defense and led to the woman being prosecuted for perverting the course of justice. https://j4mb.org.uk/2023/03/23/surrey-police-officer-found-guilty-of-perverting-the-course-of-justice-and-fraud-by-false-representation/
It serves as a warning of how "relationship difficulties" can easily be twisted into a case. This one got as far as him being imprisoned on remand and a full prosecution case set for court. Before the truth was found out. But by then he'd lost his job, reputation and not doubt trust in the Police force he worked for.
I am removing comments about issues which have nothing to do with the issues I write about here - even if I agree with them. There are other soapboxes for general political discussions.
This really puts male politicians in a real quandary. They want to be seen as heroically doing things for women. So how do they respond when (some) women label them as the problem? I very much doubt that Mark Speakman gives a rat's-ass about male victims of coercive control, but he won't want to be seen as someone who upsets women.
We're always told we need to listen to women's voices. But which women? Speakman has previously only had one voice to listen to. Men can't wash their hands or be defeatist about their role in beating feminism, but there are times when women's actions are more effective.
Great to see this. It's nice to have some good news.
How good is that, love to hear mothers of sons are ruffling a few feathers. Brisbane news have been pushing Coercive Control laws during the week, seems like Mothers of sons hit a nerve in Qld after the campaign started. If you guys come to Brisbane my husband & myself will be there to support. Keep up the great work.
In few words I was just reminded of this Female attack on Men .... You see millions of these little black ants invaded my Lolly jar , Can you believe , Mortein , Raid and other sprays just wouldn't kill them fast enough ...... Our Society's Female activists are trying everything ,and Men are having a similar problem . BUT Ladies , never forget , WE are working on it .
I love this. I shared it with others, even tentatively to a friend whos close to a frikkin feminist. Oh i was honest to her, she knows exactly what i think of her friend's political position. Aaanhyoooo. I also sent it to my ex husband, it's good for him to be reminded that im a willing and staunch #MenToo supporter, for our kids sakes.
There are bumper stickers that have been produced concerning "The Voice" (vote no, and other wording), which I purchased. I don't have a car, so I put them all on a board and stuck it on my front door. Would it be possible to produce bumper stickers about the dangers of coercive control? I would be willing to purchase some if they were produced. The anti-voice stickers cost $2 each to buy, so anyone could afford them if they were produced by the same people that print the voice stickers. Just a suggestion. T-shirts would be good too, although the cost may be prohibitive.
I am sitting here with tears in my eyes reading through Bettina's detailed, humourous and warm account of the brave MOS voluteers confrontation with mis-informed council folk. It's a great read. What a hoot! Wish I could have been there. Yes... we must all contribute to this river of emotion and make it a tsunami. I agree ... I urge people to please make a $$ contribution to support Bettina's Substack blog or this MOS campaign if you are unable to help physically.
As someone who has a doctorate in this area, specifically coercive control within contexts of IPV, coercive control is predominately, maybe 99% perpetrated by men towards women. Coercive control itself is an extension of gender inequality, which also explains why it is most frequently perpetrated by heterosexual men. In coercive control, the intention is to dominate, control and entrap a survivor within the relationship--utilizing systematic resources, that have been built by men, to uphold gender inequality. It is not only entrapment within the relationship, but entrapment by a system that limits resources for women. Additionally, coercive control has the most devastating effects for women, with increasing their risk of intimate partner homicide by 9 fold. Did you know 1 in 3 women murdered are killed by their intimate partner, with close to 100% of these women reporting coercive controlling behaviors by their partner before their murder. This platform you've created sends an inaccurate message of how coercive control manifests within the relationship context. While I am not saying it could NEVER exist, this shifts the focus and resources away from those who are most greatly impacted.
How about coercive control by , look up the recent BBC article, Eleanor Williams, found guilty of 9 counts of perverting the course of justice.
Get the sentencing statement from the court’s website.
4 men accused and jailed they not charged, 20 women named and forced to testify, hate crimes, and more.
She took swatting far beyond its scope.
😃
I assume you mean link, not like yes?
jbhackett@bigpond.com
Great campaign by MoS and your 2nd article flows seamlessly from the first.
Bettina, at what point do you think you’ll be able to “publish” a book (maybe only an eBook) on your Substack posts… “Bettina Arndt’s Substack compendium? This would undoubtedly cause a backlash, but though the negative response it would reach out to those who support Boys, Men and Fathers rights but have so far been silent. Too soon?
That the campaign incited a vehement response from the woke left /snowflakes has gained it the publicity and creditability that it may have otherwise lacked. Even the myopic misandristic reporting gives credence to the MoS contentions and articulates that men can also be (equally) victims of coercive control and that males are being deliberately targeted by the woke /marxist left.
Hi B, great to hear you got the reactions you did on the day, as stated a lot of these laws that are passed concerning “strengthening” Domestic Violence laws etc go un-noticed except when someone is accused of breaching these laws then it’s just a world of hurt & confusion to say the least! I think most people think laws are passed & have an inherent sense of “fair play” nothing could be further from the truth, keep on keeping on Dx
This story from Surry, England, illustrates the problem with such laws. There has been an offense of Coercive Control here for some years. In this tale of a policewoman using this law to get rid of one partner because she has an affair with a new man. Of particular interest to MOS was the role of this man's mother in the detective work that proved his defense and led to the woman being prosecuted for perverting the course of justice. https://j4mb.org.uk/2023/03/23/surrey-police-officer-found-guilty-of-perverting-the-course-of-justice-and-fraud-by-false-representation/
It serves as a warning of how "relationship difficulties" can easily be twisted into a case. This one got as far as him being imprisoned on remand and a full prosecution case set for court. Before the truth was found out. But by then he'd lost his job, reputation and not doubt trust in the Police force he worked for.
This is a really good development and long overdue. Congrats to all again. Happy to do what I can to pitch in.
I am removing comments about issues which have nothing to do with the issues I write about here - even if I agree with them. There are other soapboxes for general political discussions.
This really puts male politicians in a real quandary. They want to be seen as heroically doing things for women. So how do they respond when (some) women label them as the problem? I very much doubt that Mark Speakman gives a rat's-ass about male victims of coercive control, but he won't want to be seen as someone who upsets women.
We're always told we need to listen to women's voices. But which women? Speakman has previously only had one voice to listen to. Men can't wash their hands or be defeatist about their role in beating feminism, but there are times when women's actions are more effective.
Great to see this. It's nice to have some good news.
Thank you MOS and Bettina.
How good is that, love to hear mothers of sons are ruffling a few feathers. Brisbane news have been pushing Coercive Control laws during the week, seems like Mothers of sons hit a nerve in Qld after the campaign started. If you guys come to Brisbane my husband & myself will be there to support. Keep up the great work.
In few words I was just reminded of this Female attack on Men .... You see millions of these little black ants invaded my Lolly jar , Can you believe , Mortein , Raid and other sprays just wouldn't kill them fast enough ...... Our Society's Female activists are trying everything ,and Men are having a similar problem . BUT Ladies , never forget , WE are working on it .
I love this. I shared it with others, even tentatively to a friend whos close to a frikkin feminist. Oh i was honest to her, she knows exactly what i think of her friend's political position. Aaanhyoooo. I also sent it to my ex husband, it's good for him to be reminded that im a willing and staunch #MenToo supporter, for our kids sakes.
There are bumper stickers that have been produced concerning "The Voice" (vote no, and other wording), which I purchased. I don't have a car, so I put them all on a board and stuck it on my front door. Would it be possible to produce bumper stickers about the dangers of coercive control? I would be willing to purchase some if they were produced. The anti-voice stickers cost $2 each to buy, so anyone could afford them if they were produced by the same people that print the voice stickers. Just a suggestion. T-shirts would be good too, although the cost may be prohibitive.
I am sitting here with tears in my eyes reading through Bettina's detailed, humourous and warm account of the brave MOS voluteers confrontation with mis-informed council folk. It's a great read. What a hoot! Wish I could have been there. Yes... we must all contribute to this river of emotion and make it a tsunami. I agree ... I urge people to please make a $$ contribution to support Bettina's Substack blog or this MOS campaign if you are unable to help physically.