I am interested in how old he was when this occurred? We were all pretty naive when I was in my early twenties. He obviously played this incident a million times in his head, and I can only think he is too caring mixed with a lot of naivety. The parents should have set the boundaries. So many parents have different ones from social media photos to bathing etc. most friends let there youngans run around nude after bathing, which I don’t allow with mine. I think parents being hysterical is understandable if not helpful. Police and DOCs subjecting the child for unnecessary interrogation and tests means trauma for her as well. Also wonder how police could interview a child without parents present when you said she admitted he did it do what was alleged??
Just anecdotal, but I personally know TWO (!) men who were falsely accused of child sexual abuse.
A close friend's husband was once accused by an unhinged, irresponsible single mom; and a close male friend's angry, vindictive ex-wife tried accusing my friend of having assaulted their daughter (then a toddler).
Neither accusation was true, and neither held up to any scrutiny whatsoever. But they did lasting damage to the men who were accused.
If anyone thinks the demonization of Men in the child care/education system is accidental you haven't been paying attention...
In the early 2000's the disabled care industry was rife with sexual abuse. An industry that was 95% populated by Women. Of course you didn't hear much about it but when you did it was invariably one the few Men in the industry that faced, often groundless, allegations...
The closer to complete gynocentricity our society becomes, the closer we are to failure and we're pretty f*cking close to it now.
I wonder if anyone knows of the case, quite a few years ago, of the young male teacher who started his career at a school in country New South Wales. I read about it in a newspaper at the time.
He was asked to play touch football with a group of the girls and expressed his reluctance to do so. However he was instructed to join the girls and so joined the game. Either during or afterwards, a complaint or complaints were made and he was suspended.
The matter dragged on unresolved and after nine months in limbo he committed suicide.
Unfortunately, I can’t recall any other details and I’m hoping that someone else can fill that gap.
Thanks again Bettina for exposing more of the corrupt justice system, the same question comes up ' why do police prosecute when there is no evidence'?
There were no medical or forensic reports and the girl had said that she had not been touched.
The hysterical mother played a role, I suspect the police allowed themselves to be influenced by her confected outrage instead of taking a firm stand.
This happens often, when the alleged victim is female and especially a girl then all reason and caution is thrown out the window, hysteria and self-righteousness take over and the lack of evidence is forgotten or ignored.
Rather than tell the mother to go home and stop wasting everyone's time the Police took the easy, cowardly way out and threw a young man under the bus.
Shame on them and the other weasels in the justice system with the noble exception of the particular judge whose common sense can give us hope.
This should not end here, criminal charges should be laid against the mother and police officers
such as Making a false report
Tampering with fabricating or withholding evidence etc.
Damages should also be sought and maybe a million dollar law suite would deter others in the future.
I note that the police officers who fabricated the evidence have not been identified. The name of the barrister who pressured this man to confess to something he did not do is not identified. What are the names of the crown prosecutors who pushed this matter to the hilt? What is the name of the newspaper/s that defamed this man? Its all very well to tell this shocking story but those people that made it happen need to answer for what they did. Actions have consequences. If change needs to happen then those people responsible for creating a crime that did not exist should not only be named and shamed but should also be expected to pay substantial monetary damages for what they did.
I agree with you Dennis. But, the father complained to all the gov bodies that are formed for the public to complain to. I know very little about the 'law'. But until something is done nothing will improve.
New government -
make every politician "teal independents, and new Prime Minister, make them act to do what they promised. Keep us informed!
Bloody oath! I am so sick of these corrupt bastards escaping any consequences for their criminal behaviour. Women who make false accusations are in the same boat. They walk away unscathed after destroying men's lives with deliberate lies.
I was a Primary Teacher for 24 years.The last years were spent in and out of hospital with anxiety and depression.There were few male teachers coming through and females started to dominate the promoted levels.Education dept interference and new agendas based on pushing females forward meant middle aged white males were considered a bit cumbersome.Over and over again older males were emotionally side lined and their contributions became less important.Patronizing and threatening ultimatums towards changing approaches over rode teachers hard work in the classroom.I see the same agendas now in govt financed media.
I would never suggest any middle aged male take up teaching, as it has little to do with skills.
Robert within the field of nursing there is a huge amount of research on what is known as "Horizontal Violence" Look up the Mean Girls of ER in Marie Claire Magazine. To expand on what you wrote, it is Relational Aggression the technique that they use.
So much love to you Bettina for your unwavering attention to this horrendous treatment of Men and ultimately their children in our society. The politicians do not care, the Media do not care, the Institutions do not care. Meanwhile the Feminist lobby train continues to drag our families through hell, with only one winner.....FEMINISM.
Dave, I don't know how you can move through each day with such a hideous injustice having been perpetrated. I know you have no choice but I truly feel for you. The western world hates men, especially white men and could not care less if they are falsely accused, jailed when innocent or have their children ripped from their lives because they are male.
Another important piece, Bettina, which says a lot about where the powerless are in society today. While this is a rare victory for common sense there is the unspoken issue of justice delayed being justice denied.
As you make clear in your article, the deck was stacked against Lucas and his mother from the start, not just by the way the police approached the case but the fact that they had to fight a rearguard action against the prevailing narrative of the day. By a miraculous fluke the right decision was made but the judiciary are not the heroes in this tale.
I am reminded of your excellent piece some months ago about how faceless public servants behind the scenes protect the narrative that they want to push which, in that case, was children are almost always the victims of their fathers.
Here's the relevant quote from your article:
'Back in 1996, the Australian Institute of Health and Welfare published a paper on child abuse and neglect which included the provocative finding that mothers were nearly twice as likely (628 compared to 331 cases) as fathers to be responsible for abuse or neglect, according to data from the states and territories for which information was available. The research paper also noted that ‘more substantiated emotional and sexual abuse and neglect cases involved children from female single-parent families than from other types of families’.
'When this revealing data was picked up by the media, the sisterhood flexed its muscles. In the next year, the AIHW announced their decision no longer to publish figures on the gender of perpetrators of child abuse. Their explanation was fatuous – claiming not all states had provided relevant statistics, which was also true for the data that caused the stir in 1996.'
I see these public service interventions all the time across many areas of our daily lives. If the statistics don't fit the narrative not only are we denied those statistics but people like the Male Champions of Change that run the Australian Bureau of Statistics routinely doctor the statistics that we do see to reinforce the narrative they want to push. This is easily done.
I recently heard somebody on the radio say that he objected to being removed from the Qantas airline seat he'd paid for because he happened to be seated next to an unaccompanied child - the idea being that he was being targeted by the airline as a potential child abuser just simply by being a male.
if your article is any guide, this is a policy that Qantas has foisted on its own customers that is based on erroneous statistical information that the AIHW has kept hidden from the public for over two decades. The narrative is a pernicious thing that affects us all but mostly on powerless individuals in our society like Lucas and his mother - and half the population including that Qantas passenger.
What you have described is an organised attack on another powerless person's human right to be presumed innocent until proven guilty. Cases such as these are, I can only presume, all too common in our current law enforcement and judiciary system.
I admire you for making this public. I live in England at the moment but I am a US Citizen. I was accused in 2015 of sex crimes against a child. I was on Bail for 5 years not able to go anywhere. It started with the police arriving one morning at 6:00 AM where they hammered the front door. I guess I suffer from PTSD now as any time a parcel delivery person hammers on the door I get palpitations and start to quake. Eventually I was notified of 'NO FURTHER ACTION' and it was
over but it really was not. The ramifications have been awful. EVERYONE , my Family ostracized me and that has not changed. They all assumed I was guilty and no one , but no one asked me what is this about ? Is this true ? Another sad truth is that thru this ordeal I have come out hating the Police and with no respect or faith in our legal system. I also am scared to look at children and get close to them. I am a different person now.
Sadly, adults have to avoid any contact with children at all (apart from their own), in order to feel relatively safe from accusations. If you see a lost kid who is distressed in a supermarket, what do you do?
A few years ago I had taken my daughter to a merry-go-round; after the ride had finished we saw another young child who had gotten caught in the straps, visibly distressed because he was stuck in the ride and couldn't disentangle himself. I offered to help him down; I'll never forget the look in his face when he looked at me and said: "You're a stranger and you don't know the password, so I can't talk to you."
We are seriously messing up our kids, in so many ways.
Thank you to the Garratts and to Bettina for bringing all these horrible stories to the front.
The disease of feminism is a proclamation of self-righteousness. The hubris of the self-righteous, clamors for new victims to validate themselves. Hence, the current drums beating the call to crush men will not cease, unless the heart of the person is changed.
My heart ache’s for your son, this has changed his life forever. Thank goodness he had a loving and supportive family to help him. We all know decent loving men, either a spouse a son a brother or friend, it’s time to speak up and remind the world that having a penis doesn’t automatically equal predator! It’s not popular and sometimes even dangerous to speak out or even dare to question in this age of social media. Will it be the case that in 50 years this persecution of men will be studied and wondered at, how could it happen, how did the scales of justice become so unbalanced. The current culture of believe all women, or if it was a male accused then there must be some truth to it , is destroying lives. The sad truth is that yes there is terrible atrocities committed by both men and women, and guess what both sexes can lie, we need to get back to looking at the facts and proof, the gender of the accused should be a side note.Thank you for your courage in sharing your story, and Bettina as always I’m in awe of your bravery and tireless crusade on behalf of our men.
Many will see this as a great result, but let's hope that many, many more will realise that Lucas should never have been put in that situation in the first place. What disgraceful initial advice from the police and also later from his Legal Aid "advocat" regarding his plea. Coertion anyone?
I am interested in how old he was when this occurred? We were all pretty naive when I was in my early twenties. He obviously played this incident a million times in his head, and I can only think he is too caring mixed with a lot of naivety. The parents should have set the boundaries. So many parents have different ones from social media photos to bathing etc. most friends let there youngans run around nude after bathing, which I don’t allow with mine. I think parents being hysterical is understandable if not helpful. Police and DOCs subjecting the child for unnecessary interrogation and tests means trauma for her as well. Also wonder how police could interview a child without parents present when you said she admitted he did it do what was alleged??
Just anecdotal, but I personally know TWO (!) men who were falsely accused of child sexual abuse.
A close friend's husband was once accused by an unhinged, irresponsible single mom; and a close male friend's angry, vindictive ex-wife tried accusing my friend of having assaulted their daughter (then a toddler).
Neither accusation was true, and neither held up to any scrutiny whatsoever. But they did lasting damage to the men who were accused.
If anyone thinks the demonization of Men in the child care/education system is accidental you haven't been paying attention...
In the early 2000's the disabled care industry was rife with sexual abuse. An industry that was 95% populated by Women. Of course you didn't hear much about it but when you did it was invariably one the few Men in the industry that faced, often groundless, allegations...
The closer to complete gynocentricity our society becomes, the closer we are to failure and we're pretty f*cking close to it now.
I wonder if anyone knows of the case, quite a few years ago, of the young male teacher who started his career at a school in country New South Wales. I read about it in a newspaper at the time.
He was asked to play touch football with a group of the girls and expressed his reluctance to do so. However he was instructed to join the girls and so joined the game. Either during or afterwards, a complaint or complaints were made and he was suspended.
The matter dragged on unresolved and after nine months in limbo he committed suicide.
Unfortunately, I can’t recall any other details and I’m hoping that someone else can fill that gap.
Thanks again Bettina for exposing more of the corrupt justice system, the same question comes up ' why do police prosecute when there is no evidence'?
There were no medical or forensic reports and the girl had said that she had not been touched.
The hysterical mother played a role, I suspect the police allowed themselves to be influenced by her confected outrage instead of taking a firm stand.
This happens often, when the alleged victim is female and especially a girl then all reason and caution is thrown out the window, hysteria and self-righteousness take over and the lack of evidence is forgotten or ignored.
Rather than tell the mother to go home and stop wasting everyone's time the Police took the easy, cowardly way out and threw a young man under the bus.
Shame on them and the other weasels in the justice system with the noble exception of the particular judge whose common sense can give us hope.
This should not end here, criminal charges should be laid against the mother and police officers
such as Making a false report
Tampering with fabricating or withholding evidence etc.
Damages should also be sought and maybe a million dollar law suite would deter others in the future.
I note that the police officers who fabricated the evidence have not been identified. The name of the barrister who pressured this man to confess to something he did not do is not identified. What are the names of the crown prosecutors who pushed this matter to the hilt? What is the name of the newspaper/s that defamed this man? Its all very well to tell this shocking story but those people that made it happen need to answer for what they did. Actions have consequences. If change needs to happen then those people responsible for creating a crime that did not exist should not only be named and shamed but should also be expected to pay substantial monetary damages for what they did.
I agree with you Dennis. But, the father complained to all the gov bodies that are formed for the public to complain to. I know very little about the 'law'. But until something is done nothing will improve.
New government -
make every politician "teal independents, and new Prime Minister, make them act to do what they promised. Keep us informed!
Bloody oath! I am so sick of these corrupt bastards escaping any consequences for their criminal behaviour. Women who make false accusations are in the same boat. They walk away unscathed after destroying men's lives with deliberate lies.
I was a Primary Teacher for 24 years.The last years were spent in and out of hospital with anxiety and depression.There were few male teachers coming through and females started to dominate the promoted levels.Education dept interference and new agendas based on pushing females forward meant middle aged white males were considered a bit cumbersome.Over and over again older males were emotionally side lined and their contributions became less important.Patronizing and threatening ultimatums towards changing approaches over rode teachers hard work in the classroom.I see the same agendas now in govt financed media.
I would never suggest any middle aged male take up teaching, as it has little to do with skills.
Robert within the field of nursing there is a huge amount of research on what is known as "Horizontal Violence" Look up the Mean Girls of ER in Marie Claire Magazine. To expand on what you wrote, it is Relational Aggression the technique that they use.
So much love to you Bettina for your unwavering attention to this horrendous treatment of Men and ultimately their children in our society. The politicians do not care, the Media do not care, the Institutions do not care. Meanwhile the Feminist lobby train continues to drag our families through hell, with only one winner.....FEMINISM.
Thank you Bettina.
I hope your son is in a good place and things get easier over time. It’s a long way to go. with support it’s an easier journey for him.
I was told by NSW services I broke a child’s leg and ankle. Threw the child against walls after leg was broken. And harmed other child other ways.
I was and still are put on restrictions that make me feel like a pedofile and child abuser
I have never hurt a child in my life.
Move on. How.
I live the days feeling sad and angry from indignation NSW services thrusted onto me.
I didn’t do anything
They know it but filed it in children court anyway.
Corruption. Agenda based attack that answers to no one.
Move on.
How.
I know where your son has been. I know your son has a long way to go. Patients goes a long way.
No solicitor will help me. Same answer. We don’t have the resources.
Indignation has taken to many lives. From false allegations.
Stay safe.
Dave, I don't know how you can move through each day with such a hideous injustice having been perpetrated. I know you have no choice but I truly feel for you. The western world hates men, especially white men and could not care less if they are falsely accused, jailed when innocent or have their children ripped from their lives because they are male.
Surely, eventually the innocent will be rewarded and the bad/corrupt pay?
In a perfect or just world. We don't live in a perfect or just world.
Another important piece, Bettina, which says a lot about where the powerless are in society today. While this is a rare victory for common sense there is the unspoken issue of justice delayed being justice denied.
As you make clear in your article, the deck was stacked against Lucas and his mother from the start, not just by the way the police approached the case but the fact that they had to fight a rearguard action against the prevailing narrative of the day. By a miraculous fluke the right decision was made but the judiciary are not the heroes in this tale.
I am reminded of your excellent piece some months ago about how faceless public servants behind the scenes protect the narrative that they want to push which, in that case, was children are almost always the victims of their fathers.
Here's the relevant quote from your article:
'Back in 1996, the Australian Institute of Health and Welfare published a paper on child abuse and neglect which included the provocative finding that mothers were nearly twice as likely (628 compared to 331 cases) as fathers to be responsible for abuse or neglect, according to data from the states and territories for which information was available. The research paper also noted that ‘more substantiated emotional and sexual abuse and neglect cases involved children from female single-parent families than from other types of families’.
'When this revealing data was picked up by the media, the sisterhood flexed its muscles. In the next year, the AIHW announced their decision no longer to publish figures on the gender of perpetrators of child abuse. Their explanation was fatuous – claiming not all states had provided relevant statistics, which was also true for the data that caused the stir in 1996.'
I see these public service interventions all the time across many areas of our daily lives. If the statistics don't fit the narrative not only are we denied those statistics but people like the Male Champions of Change that run the Australian Bureau of Statistics routinely doctor the statistics that we do see to reinforce the narrative they want to push. This is easily done.
I recently heard somebody on the radio say that he objected to being removed from the Qantas airline seat he'd paid for because he happened to be seated next to an unaccompanied child - the idea being that he was being targeted by the airline as a potential child abuser just simply by being a male.
if your article is any guide, this is a policy that Qantas has foisted on its own customers that is based on erroneous statistical information that the AIHW has kept hidden from the public for over two decades. The narrative is a pernicious thing that affects us all but mostly on powerless individuals in our society like Lucas and his mother - and half the population including that Qantas passenger.
What you have described is an organised attack on another powerless person's human right to be presumed innocent until proven guilty. Cases such as these are, I can only presume, all too common in our current law enforcement and judiciary system.
hi Kay - thanks for your comment. Some people have told me this so you are not the first.
I admire you for making this public. I live in England at the moment but I am a US Citizen. I was accused in 2015 of sex crimes against a child. I was on Bail for 5 years not able to go anywhere. It started with the police arriving one morning at 6:00 AM where they hammered the front door. I guess I suffer from PTSD now as any time a parcel delivery person hammers on the door I get palpitations and start to quake. Eventually I was notified of 'NO FURTHER ACTION' and it was
over but it really was not. The ramifications have been awful. EVERYONE , my Family ostracized me and that has not changed. They all assumed I was guilty and no one , but no one asked me what is this about ? Is this true ? Another sad truth is that thru this ordeal I have come out hating the Police and with no respect or faith in our legal system. I also am scared to look at children and get close to them. I am a different person now.
That is a shocking story, Ostin. I hope you can find a way to leave this horror behind you and find some joy in your life.
Sadly, adults have to avoid any contact with children at all (apart from their own), in order to feel relatively safe from accusations. If you see a lost kid who is distressed in a supermarket, what do you do?
A few years ago I had taken my daughter to a merry-go-round; after the ride had finished we saw another young child who had gotten caught in the straps, visibly distressed because he was stuck in the ride and couldn't disentangle himself. I offered to help him down; I'll never forget the look in his face when he looked at me and said: "You're a stranger and you don't know the password, so I can't talk to you."
We are seriously messing up our kids, in so many ways.
Thank you to the Garratts and to Bettina for bringing all these horrible stories to the front.
The disease of feminism is a proclamation of self-righteousness. The hubris of the self-righteous, clamors for new victims to validate themselves. Hence, the current drums beating the call to crush men will not cease, unless the heart of the person is changed.
My heart ache’s for your son, this has changed his life forever. Thank goodness he had a loving and supportive family to help him. We all know decent loving men, either a spouse a son a brother or friend, it’s time to speak up and remind the world that having a penis doesn’t automatically equal predator! It’s not popular and sometimes even dangerous to speak out or even dare to question in this age of social media. Will it be the case that in 50 years this persecution of men will be studied and wondered at, how could it happen, how did the scales of justice become so unbalanced. The current culture of believe all women, or if it was a male accused then there must be some truth to it , is destroying lives. The sad truth is that yes there is terrible atrocities committed by both men and women, and guess what both sexes can lie, we need to get back to looking at the facts and proof, the gender of the accused should be a side note.Thank you for your courage in sharing your story, and Bettina as always I’m in awe of your bravery and tireless crusade on behalf of our men.
Many will see this as a great result, but let's hope that many, many more will realise that Lucas should never have been put in that situation in the first place. What disgraceful initial advice from the police and also later from his Legal Aid "advocat" regarding his plea. Coertion anyone?