This is what feminism has done , the lie that women could "have it all" has failed and now many good women find themselves alone and unhappy.
Forced by the feminists indoctrination to devalue traditional roles of housewife and mother they sought fame and fortune , but have become arrogant and conceited , it is a shame that their "education" did not include lessons on humility.
Have a listen to some of Kevin Samuel's videos. He pushes this line very strongly, claiming women have to learn to be feminine and obedient! I think that is going too far but certainly women's sense of entitlement can mean they no longer see any need to show respect for a man and strive to look after him. In my dating coaching days I had enormous trouble with clients who really objected to the idea that they had to show what they had to offer a man, rather than just put up a shopping list of their needs and wants.
Interesting word "obedience" bettina has dealt with that (mutual respect) and i agree. But the fcat is men MUST be obedient! The wife (partner or whatever) holds all the aces. If you do not keep your mouth shut and just accept endless unearned criticism without defending yourself, your children will be turned against you (as anyone else she can find to tell lies about you). Young men are seeing this happen to others and are very wary of marriage .
Kevin S is at least right in encouraging women to be more feminine and women should be proud of their femininity, this is after all what makes them different to men and the French say “vive la differance”
No thanks ! Dont try to supress women saying feminity means obedience ! No shit ! Men and women are all human beings first . U dont give respect don’t expect any !
If you can't show respect for others, you can't demand that you yourself be automatically respected (including respect for your disrespect) which is what feminist claim as their right as misandristic women
One interesting question about intellectual freedom and respect. It is QUITE possible to express disagreement with someone's opinion, while respecting their right to have that opinion. Men do not even have a right to express an opinion without rabid attacks which are nothing but public bullying.
U just can’t bear to see successful women ! Can you ? U know what it’s way better to stay unmarried than live entire life with some who wud try to ruin their Carrier and make them subservient housewives . Marriage is not all about child making and mating . What are we ? Mere animals ? Marriage is about love ! . If a lady wants a kid she could just go ahead and adopt or opt ART , doesn’t need a husband !
Spot on. Any man has to realise that in a marriage he is powerless to even express his point of view. If he does and it angers his partner (who rarely seems to understand freedom of expression) can take his children, house, car and a significant slice of his income until the children finish university. Just on a whim. No evidence of any sort required just assertion. Oh and MOST importantly; the mother child bond being so strong (biologically), the children can also be turned against him with the use of lies. Who in their right mind would let themselves in for THAT !
The power of love! Men delude themselves that the woman of their dreams would never act like that. And we must say there are plenty who don't. But the sad thing is we are often at our worst during the stress of a marriage breakup and even women who are normally decent and kind can get caught up in this type of nastiness, particularly with lawyers urging them to go for broke, for the sake of their children.
Particularly when a man accepts a woman into his life with a young child. Even after 10 years together and raising the child as his own in a breakup he has no rights of access to the child. A very dangerous game getting involved with a premade family.
I do plan to write something about men becoming stepfathers. It is so heartbreaking for men to take on that role and then, when the relationship ends, they are totally locked out of the children's lives.
So glad I am in my mid 60's now but can totally relate to your article. Rejected in my teens as I was not a sporting jock, worked hard and in my mid 20's success and money came as well as a physique developed during a 6-year stint in the Army from the age of 17. I was hot property but rejected the shallow females that desired to marry up. Was not interested in booze fueled hook-ups and the numerous approaches from poorly educated mid to late 20-year-old single mums looking for a meal ticket and an instant daddy. I married a lady 12 years my junior when I was in my late 30’s, by that time I had several degrees and running my own business, she was well educated as well and now 28 years later our children are grown well educated and well adjusted. I must say a sincere thankyou for those early rejections and education by women chasing a meal ticket. You taught me what I did not want and to value my own worth.
Interesting take on the dating game , would seem these younger ambitious females should lower the bar. I've seen young women dismiss men on dating apps for their appearance. Things as insignificant as a poorly chosen shirt or haircut.
Today's young women have really made a rod for their own backs and your story doesn't even take into account the reduction in the pool of available men due to homosexuality.
It's no wonder recent statics have 20% of zoomers identifying as same sex( how they arrived at this figure i've no clue) . If there's an upside , it would be doubling your wardrobe ;)
I didn't include gay people but they are really a small population, despite all the hype. And in theory there are equal numbers of gay men and women so they should not affect the overall position of heterosexual thirty-something women looking for a mate.
This is totally accurate. As a near 60 I've been through exactly what Bettina speaks of and won't be dragged, kicking and screaming through either Family Court or False Accusation trials again. I'm now firmly entrenched in the female segregated lifestyle, playing with my toys like Classic cars, Classic bikes and Microlight aircraft. I'm preparing to leave the country to live in a region where you can still have a relationship without these False Allegation embracing Consent laws being hammered down our throats. I expect to be gone, probably for good, within a year or 2
That's irrelevant, Christopher. Men don't need to compete with vibrators. The business of lovemaking have nothing to do with that type of endless stimulation...but rather the whole, delightful process of giving and receiving pleasure.
How about start endorsing housewives as a possible solution? I met a girl who wanted to do just that, but she was pressured by society into getting a degree. Previously, she had a attraction to tradesmen and she doesn't now, thanks to hypergamy. She regrets her decision. It just happened so that her mum was a housewife and she never aspired to have a job.
Brad, Even a neanderphal like me shudders at the term "housewife". That's rather like talking about "the man of the house"! But I take your point that plenty of women prefer to concentrate on being full-time mothers and "homemakers" and there are many husbands (and children) who benefit from having that caring woman looking after them.
The term was used by her and I just went along. I know plenty women who aren't bothered by it. My mum referred to my dad as 'the man of the house' all the time.
Interestingly, some people pointed out this is the fine example of how they're trying to do away gender stereotype. People who are fighting the feminist are guilty of doing it themselves.
Very interesting insight watched yesterday on a Jordon Peterson podcast interview.woth a young Yale Grad researcher (from working.class stock) in psychology. He advised that a Dating App Exec told him that they play a "malevolent game" ( to paraphrase JBP)whereby any newbie men to sites are falsely sent pics of "interested" women, and the banter may go for a while and the come to nothing..it is part.of their fishing for desperate men and get them to engage, get a adrenalin hit of possible relationship and then pay up. But, it's a cruel sham and all for nought. My.experiences on dating apps have been pretty terrible,and regardless this revelation does not surprise me at all, as cruel and awful as it is. Be aware. Only way to beeak it is for someome to take them to Court for false and misleading conduct - as if.
Having spent years online dating, culminating in meeting my partner online eight years ago, I must point out it is working well for many people. It is now the way most singles find their partners.
Cheers, no doubt. But I also suspect it is not working well for possibly an even larger number of people. We'd never know properly as I suspect stats hard to gather stats accurately. Not saying it can't work, just saying some of it is likely Shonky, and the success rate from what I've read is statistically pretty low. So, buyer beware, that's all. I still engage in it from time to time, but more wisely and more realistic expectations now.
It could be said that “𝗠𝗜𝗚𝗧𝗢𝗪” is a product of the excesses and tyranny of feminism, an unforeseeable (but only for a feminist) consequence of this gynocentric ideology that promotes female privilege and an allergic reaction to the misandry of feminists and their enablers.
In the past we called single older /elderly women who were unmarried (/unpartnered) "spinsters": we now call them "feminists".
" 𝙢𝙞𝙜𝙝𝙩𝙮 𝙝𝙤𝙡𝙚 𝙬𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙣 𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙚𝙙 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙢𝙖𝙧𝙧𝙞𝙖𝙜𝙚 𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙨𝙥𝙚𝙘𝙩𝙨 𝙙𝙚𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙨 𝙖𝙜𝙤"" ~ militant feminism has always renounced the institution of "marriage" and all the societally sanctified benefits that “marriage” enshrined decades ago in pursuit of the Marxist tenants including "children don't need fathers / families”. Marxism definitions of the “proletariat” can be defined to included “the social class having no significant responsibilities…” which feminists and toxic political organisations (such as the Australian “greens”) have expanded to mean “women have no agency, responsibility or accountability for their actions”.
" 𝙏𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙞𝙨 𝙤𝙛 𝙘𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙧𝙞𝙜𝙝𝙩. 𝘽𝙪𝙩 𝙪𝙡𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙖𝙩𝙪𝙢𝙨 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙖 𝙧𝙞𝙨𝙠𝙮 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜, 𝙗𝙚𝙘𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙞𝙨 𝙖𝙡𝙬𝙖𝙮𝙨 𝙖 𝙥𝙤𝙨𝙨𝙞𝙗𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙮 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙨𝙞𝙙𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙙𝙚𝙘𝙞𝙙𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙞𝙩 "... increasingly young men, especially millennial males are going "pass" to romantic /sexual relationships with these self-entitled, privileged, snowflakes who think they are better than who they are as a person, just because they are female. This toxic phenomenon isn’t just confined to AU, it’s global wherever gender parity has be usurped by misandristic feminist rhetoric and legally entrenched privilege.
“𝙬𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙣 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙧𝙩𝙞𝙚𝙨 𝙛𝙖𝙘𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙧𝙖𝙥𝙞𝙙𝙡𝙮 𝙘𝙡𝙤𝙨𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙧𝙚𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙙𝙪𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙣𝙙𝙤𝙬” ~ research released in the last week postulates (basis on their research data) that there is a strong link between the early onset of menopause and the early onset of dementia ~ should we therefore promote hormone therapy to delay the early onset of dementia in women, so as to reduce the burden on our Age Care Sector (a decade ago ≈ 10-20% of residents in Aged Care were “High Care patients” suffering dementia, this is expected to grow to 80% within a decade, making the (globally unique) Australian model of Aged Care even more unsustainable /affordable (As an Architect, this is one of only three spaces I enjoyed professionally working in; the others being Early Learning and Tiny Houses)
“𝙄𝙨 𝙞𝙩 𝙖𝙣𝙮 𝙬𝙤𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙨𝙚 𝙬𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙣 𝙩𝙤𝙙𝙖𝙮 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙧𝙞𝙗𝙡𝙮 𝙗𝙞𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙧 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙖𝙣𝙜𝙧𝙮?” Well… Yes, it is! They chose to “play the market” when it was “without consequence” for them (mirroring some men’s behaviours), they started out with a chip on both shoulders and are now victims of their own /feminist success. If they really wanted children of their own, there are so many children waiting for adoption or long-term foster parents… I’ll leave it there before I trigger people using IVF or surrogacy.
I have three examples of 'you're not good enough': three women now in their 60s and still single. However, I did get married and raised a family. So, to those three choosy ones: your game back-fired. Or maybe I was just the gawky highly paid professional with high IQ and multiple degrees that no one would stoop to marry when I was under 30. Egg on face?
The rise in young male virginity is hardly surprising when online pornography enables instant gratification with minimal investment of time and money, or risk.
Young men ghosting implies that nothing in their interactions with the women they are dating is rewarding enough to warrant a second date - not even the sex. Speaking from personal experience, it is likely a sign of regret and wanting to forget an unpleasant encounter.
Many women fail to realise that physical appearance is only enough to get them a first date. To get a second date there needs to be something attractive on the inside, which is where many of them fall down.
Without wanting to be judgmental, I've long maintained that most of the unexpected consequences stemming from feminism have been predictable.
Having once studied economics, I believe that one of the few things they actually got right was the law of supply and demand. This was during the 70s and it really wasn't all that difficult for men to observe the massive increase in the supply of 'free' female sex partners at that time.
Although fortunately or not - I'm still not sure which - I was somewhat constrained by some sort of innate ethical stance from taking full advantage of this situation. Others obviously had no such limitations - a situation that no doubt continues today.
To grossly oversimplify your argument - men want sex, women want money.
My response to feminist criticisms of the status quo typically includes one or both of the following:
1. Most reasonable people (and yes, that includes men) have no objection to equality of opportunity for women. This however, was mostly achieved over 30 years ago.
2. It might be a laudable exercise to try and tamper with the successful biological 'division of labour' model that evolved hundreds of thousands (if not millions) of years ago, but don't be surprised if you cause more problems than you solve.
Although I realise you're up against what Carlo Cipolla summarised in his classic text: 'The Basic Laws of Human Stupidity', I strongly encourage you to continue down the never-ending road of mass enlightenment.
This speaks to the gender attraction differential that we are seeing from the data published by online dating agencies (a highly profitable industry now built on rather revealing data). Issues of the 80:20 principle and correlations with divorce stats, health data in things like std rates.
From memory there's a really good video on YouTube breaking down some of the data.
Yes, the extraordinary pickiness of women has been thoroughly exposed through this type of research. Men are willing to approach a wide range of women (depending on their looks!) but successful women tend to be dismissive, even insulted, when average men approach them. Women's friends are a big part of the problem. Sometimes I would find women met perfectly reasonable men and were happy to go out with them until their friends sneered at the fact they were dating a plumber, or a short, unattractive man.
This is what feminism has done , the lie that women could "have it all" has failed and now many good women find themselves alone and unhappy.
Forced by the feminists indoctrination to devalue traditional roles of housewife and mother they sought fame and fortune , but have become arrogant and conceited , it is a shame that their "education" did not include lessons on humility.
Have a listen to some of Kevin Samuel's videos. He pushes this line very strongly, claiming women have to learn to be feminine and obedient! I think that is going too far but certainly women's sense of entitlement can mean they no longer see any need to show respect for a man and strive to look after him. In my dating coaching days I had enormous trouble with clients who really objected to the idea that they had to show what they had to offer a man, rather than just put up a shopping list of their needs and wants.
It is stunning how the the idea of obedience has become distorted, is not a marriage based upon mutual obedience to each other?
I would have thought it is mutual respect and a desire to please and nurture each other.
Interesting word "obedience" bettina has dealt with that (mutual respect) and i agree. But the fcat is men MUST be obedient! The wife (partner or whatever) holds all the aces. If you do not keep your mouth shut and just accept endless unearned criticism without defending yourself, your children will be turned against you (as anyone else she can find to tell lies about you). Young men are seeing this happen to others and are very wary of marriage .
Kevin S is at least right in encouraging women to be more feminine and women should be proud of their femininity, this is after all what makes them different to men and the French say “vive la differance”
No thanks ! Dont try to supress women saying feminity means obedience ! No shit ! Men and women are all human beings first . U dont give respect don’t expect any !
If you can't show respect for others, you can't demand that you yourself be automatically respected (including respect for your disrespect) which is what feminist claim as their right as misandristic women
One interesting question about intellectual freedom and respect. It is QUITE possible to express disagreement with someone's opinion, while respecting their right to have that opinion. Men do not even have a right to express an opinion without rabid attacks which are nothing but public bullying.
Absolutely. RESPECT goes two ways. Just because you marry someone , doesn't mean get the right to criticise every move they make!
U just can’t bear to see successful women ! Can you ? U know what it’s way better to stay unmarried than live entire life with some who wud try to ruin their Carrier and make them subservient housewives . Marriage is not all about child making and mating . What are we ? Mere animals ? Marriage is about love ! . If a lady wants a kid she could just go ahead and adopt or opt ART , doesn’t need a husband !
Spot on. Any man has to realise that in a marriage he is powerless to even express his point of view. If he does and it angers his partner (who rarely seems to understand freedom of expression) can take his children, house, car and a significant slice of his income until the children finish university. Just on a whim. No evidence of any sort required just assertion. Oh and MOST importantly; the mother child bond being so strong (biologically), the children can also be turned against him with the use of lies. Who in their right mind would let themselves in for THAT !
The power of love! Men delude themselves that the woman of their dreams would never act like that. And we must say there are plenty who don't. But the sad thing is we are often at our worst during the stress of a marriage breakup and even women who are normally decent and kind can get caught up in this type of nastiness, particularly with lawyers urging them to go for broke, for the sake of their children.
Particularly when a man accepts a woman into his life with a young child. Even after 10 years together and raising the child as his own in a breakup he has no rights of access to the child. A very dangerous game getting involved with a premade family.
I do plan to write something about men becoming stepfathers. It is so heartbreaking for men to take on that role and then, when the relationship ends, they are totally locked out of the children's lives.
Absolutely and some of us know it is a gamble.
Sad, but too often true.
We mock the laws of nature at our peril.
So glad I am in my mid 60's now but can totally relate to your article. Rejected in my teens as I was not a sporting jock, worked hard and in my mid 20's success and money came as well as a physique developed during a 6-year stint in the Army from the age of 17. I was hot property but rejected the shallow females that desired to marry up. Was not interested in booze fueled hook-ups and the numerous approaches from poorly educated mid to late 20-year-old single mums looking for a meal ticket and an instant daddy. I married a lady 12 years my junior when I was in my late 30’s, by that time I had several degrees and running my own business, she was well educated as well and now 28 years later our children are grown well educated and well adjusted. I must say a sincere thankyou for those early rejections and education by women chasing a meal ticket. You taught me what I did not want and to value my own worth.
Well, that is a classic story. Glad it worked out well.
Interesting take on the dating game , would seem these younger ambitious females should lower the bar. I've seen young women dismiss men on dating apps for their appearance. Things as insignificant as a poorly chosen shirt or haircut.
Today's young women have really made a rod for their own backs and your story doesn't even take into account the reduction in the pool of available men due to homosexuality.
It's no wonder recent statics have 20% of zoomers identifying as same sex( how they arrived at this figure i've no clue) . If there's an upside , it would be doubling your wardrobe ;)
I didn't include gay people but they are really a small population, despite all the hype. And in theory there are equal numbers of gay men and women so they should not affect the overall position of heterosexual thirty-something women looking for a mate.
This is totally accurate. As a near 60 I've been through exactly what Bettina speaks of and won't be dragged, kicking and screaming through either Family Court or False Accusation trials again. I'm now firmly entrenched in the female segregated lifestyle, playing with my toys like Classic cars, Classic bikes and Microlight aircraft. I'm preparing to leave the country to live in a region where you can still have a relationship without these False Allegation embracing Consent laws being hammered down our throats. I expect to be gone, probably for good, within a year or 2
Theres another blow , "playing with toys" few males can compete with those ever-ready's ;0
That's irrelevant, Christopher. Men don't need to compete with vibrators. The business of lovemaking have nothing to do with that type of endless stimulation...but rather the whole, delightful process of giving and receiving pleasure.
My toys are Classic cars, Classic bikes and Microlight aircraft Chris. I get the misinterpretation but, yeah, let's not go there, huh?
How about start endorsing housewives as a possible solution? I met a girl who wanted to do just that, but she was pressured by society into getting a degree. Previously, she had a attraction to tradesmen and she doesn't now, thanks to hypergamy. She regrets her decision. It just happened so that her mum was a housewife and she never aspired to have a job.
Brad, Even a neanderphal like me shudders at the term "housewife". That's rather like talking about "the man of the house"! But I take your point that plenty of women prefer to concentrate on being full-time mothers and "homemakers" and there are many husbands (and children) who benefit from having that caring woman looking after them.
The term was used by her and I just went along. I know plenty women who aren't bothered by it. My mum referred to my dad as 'the man of the house' all the time.
Interestingly, some people pointed out this is the fine example of how they're trying to do away gender stereotype. People who are fighting the feminist are guilty of doing it themselves.
Annonumus you have a chip on your shoulder your attitude is typical of modern feminists
Very interesting insight watched yesterday on a Jordon Peterson podcast interview.woth a young Yale Grad researcher (from working.class stock) in psychology. He advised that a Dating App Exec told him that they play a "malevolent game" ( to paraphrase JBP)whereby any newbie men to sites are falsely sent pics of "interested" women, and the banter may go for a while and the come to nothing..it is part.of their fishing for desperate men and get them to engage, get a adrenalin hit of possible relationship and then pay up. But, it's a cruel sham and all for nought. My.experiences on dating apps have been pretty terrible,and regardless this revelation does not surprise me at all, as cruel and awful as it is. Be aware. Only way to beeak it is for someome to take them to Court for false and misleading conduct - as if.
Having spent years online dating, culminating in meeting my partner online eight years ago, I must point out it is working well for many people. It is now the way most singles find their partners.
Cheers, no doubt. But I also suspect it is not working well for possibly an even larger number of people. We'd never know properly as I suspect stats hard to gather stats accurately. Not saying it can't work, just saying some of it is likely Shonky, and the success rate from what I've read is statistically pretty low. So, buyer beware, that's all. I still engage in it from time to time, but more wisely and more realistic expectations now.
It could be said that “𝗠𝗜𝗚𝗧𝗢𝗪” is a product of the excesses and tyranny of feminism, an unforeseeable (but only for a feminist) consequence of this gynocentric ideology that promotes female privilege and an allergic reaction to the misandry of feminists and their enablers.
In the past we called single older /elderly women who were unmarried (/unpartnered) "spinsters": we now call them "feminists".
" 𝙢𝙞𝙜𝙝𝙩𝙮 𝙝𝙤𝙡𝙚 𝙬𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙣 𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙚𝙙 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙢𝙖𝙧𝙧𝙞𝙖𝙜𝙚 𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙨𝙥𝙚𝙘𝙩𝙨 𝙙𝙚𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙨 𝙖𝙜𝙤"" ~ militant feminism has always renounced the institution of "marriage" and all the societally sanctified benefits that “marriage” enshrined decades ago in pursuit of the Marxist tenants including "children don't need fathers / families”. Marxism definitions of the “proletariat” can be defined to included “the social class having no significant responsibilities…” which feminists and toxic political organisations (such as the Australian “greens”) have expanded to mean “women have no agency, responsibility or accountability for their actions”.
" 𝙏𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙞𝙨 𝙤𝙛 𝙘𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙧𝙞𝙜𝙝𝙩. 𝘽𝙪𝙩 𝙪𝙡𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙖𝙩𝙪𝙢𝙨 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙖 𝙧𝙞𝙨𝙠𝙮 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜, 𝙗𝙚𝙘𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙞𝙨 𝙖𝙡𝙬𝙖𝙮𝙨 𝙖 𝙥𝙤𝙨𝙨𝙞𝙗𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙮 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙨𝙞𝙙𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙙𝙚𝙘𝙞𝙙𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙞𝙩 "... increasingly young men, especially millennial males are going "pass" to romantic /sexual relationships with these self-entitled, privileged, snowflakes who think they are better than who they are as a person, just because they are female. This toxic phenomenon isn’t just confined to AU, it’s global wherever gender parity has be usurped by misandristic feminist rhetoric and legally entrenched privilege.
“𝙬𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙣 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙧𝙩𝙞𝙚𝙨 𝙛𝙖𝙘𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙧𝙖𝙥𝙞𝙙𝙡𝙮 𝙘𝙡𝙤𝙨𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙧𝙚𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙙𝙪𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙣𝙙𝙤𝙬” ~ research released in the last week postulates (basis on their research data) that there is a strong link between the early onset of menopause and the early onset of dementia ~ should we therefore promote hormone therapy to delay the early onset of dementia in women, so as to reduce the burden on our Age Care Sector (a decade ago ≈ 10-20% of residents in Aged Care were “High Care patients” suffering dementia, this is expected to grow to 80% within a decade, making the (globally unique) Australian model of Aged Care even more unsustainable /affordable (As an Architect, this is one of only three spaces I enjoyed professionally working in; the others being Early Learning and Tiny Houses)
“𝙄𝙨 𝙞𝙩 𝙖𝙣𝙮 𝙬𝙤𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙨𝙚 𝙬𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙣 𝙩𝙤𝙙𝙖𝙮 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙧𝙞𝙗𝙡𝙮 𝙗𝙞𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙧 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙖𝙣𝙜𝙧𝙮?” Well… Yes, it is! They chose to “play the market” when it was “without consequence” for them (mirroring some men’s behaviours), they started out with a chip on both shoulders and are now victims of their own /feminist success. If they really wanted children of their own, there are so many children waiting for adoption or long-term foster parents… I’ll leave it there before I trigger people using IVF or surrogacy.
I have three examples of 'you're not good enough': three women now in their 60s and still single. However, I did get married and raised a family. So, to those three choosy ones: your game back-fired. Or maybe I was just the gawky highly paid professional with high IQ and multiple degrees that no one would stoop to marry when I was under 30. Egg on face?
Good to hear it all worked out so well for you, Nigel
The rise in young male virginity is hardly surprising when online pornography enables instant gratification with minimal investment of time and money, or risk.
Young men ghosting implies that nothing in their interactions with the women they are dating is rewarding enough to warrant a second date - not even the sex. Speaking from personal experience, it is likely a sign of regret and wanting to forget an unpleasant encounter.
Many women fail to realise that physical appearance is only enough to get them a first date. To get a second date there needs to be something attractive on the inside, which is where many of them fall down.
Haha!
Without wanting to be judgmental, I've long maintained that most of the unexpected consequences stemming from feminism have been predictable.
Having once studied economics, I believe that one of the few things they actually got right was the law of supply and demand. This was during the 70s and it really wasn't all that difficult for men to observe the massive increase in the supply of 'free' female sex partners at that time.
Although fortunately or not - I'm still not sure which - I was somewhat constrained by some sort of innate ethical stance from taking full advantage of this situation. Others obviously had no such limitations - a situation that no doubt continues today.
To grossly oversimplify your argument - men want sex, women want money.
My response to feminist criticisms of the status quo typically includes one or both of the following:
1. Most reasonable people (and yes, that includes men) have no objection to equality of opportunity for women. This however, was mostly achieved over 30 years ago.
2. It might be a laudable exercise to try and tamper with the successful biological 'division of labour' model that evolved hundreds of thousands (if not millions) of years ago, but don't be surprised if you cause more problems than you solve.
Although I realise you're up against what Carlo Cipolla summarised in his classic text: 'The Basic Laws of Human Stupidity', I strongly encourage you to continue down the never-ending road of mass enlightenment.
Another great article. Thanks Bettina.
This speaks to the gender attraction differential that we are seeing from the data published by online dating agencies (a highly profitable industry now built on rather revealing data). Issues of the 80:20 principle and correlations with divorce stats, health data in things like std rates.
From memory there's a really good video on YouTube breaking down some of the data.
Yes, the extraordinary pickiness of women has been thoroughly exposed through this type of research. Men are willing to approach a wide range of women (depending on their looks!) but successful women tend to be dismissive, even insulted, when average men approach them. Women's friends are a big part of the problem. Sometimes I would find women met perfectly reasonable men and were happy to go out with them until their friends sneered at the fact they were dating a plumber, or a short, unattractive man.
I am reminded of you joke about the store women went into to find the ideal man and men entering a building to find and ideal woman
It makes you wonder if women in the past would have been a LOT more picky if the already had a good job and income !