It's a disgrace that Women only have to say they fear for their safety without any evidence and the Father is treated like a criminal without any hope of seeing his Children.
Please read the story this morning about Darcy & Chloe Conley two beautiful children who died in 60 deg heat strapped in their car seats. The mother a drug addict known to the police & child safety was responsible. The Father could not have custody of the children because the mother made a complaint of Domestic Violence.
I don't think comments are open on your spectator article yet. I will comment when I get the chance. I spent an extra seven or eight years in a dead marriage because I knew that the family law situation would simply screw me. The financial workover would have been one thing but to lose the day-to-day contact with my kids would have been soul destroying. I managed to hang on long enough to get my youngest to 16 years old before she dumped me. I can only imagine how devastating it is for Dads who are sliced out of their kids lives when the kids are young. I was lucky, in a way.
If anyone reading this has a subscription to Spectator Australia, can you please urgently post a comment under my article, which has just been published? We need to impress on readers just how many families will be affected by these drastic changes to family law. https://www.spectator.com.au/2023/02/a-return-to-winner-takes-all-custody-battles/
Years ago, Attorney Gloria Allred used every media outlet at her disposal to destroy the reputation of a young man. The young man in question had impregnated a young woman who worked for his family restaurant. He wanted to be part of the baby's life. The mother had the opportunity to attend a prestigious university on the east coast - might have been Harvard. Allred used every tool to paint a picture of a low class individual because, Good God, he was only an employee of a family restaurant. Meanwhile, the woman was painted us this virtuous young woman with so much ahead of her. At the time in California you had to get a court order to take children out of state if the other parent opposed it. Allred argued in courts, and the media, that of course she should be allowed to take the baby with her to the east coast even thought it would deny the ability for the young man to truly interact with his child. I wrote a letter to the LA Times, which I canceled long ago, stating that if the young woman was intelligent enough to get into Harvard, she surely could get into a university in California which has many top schools, and that should be the compromise. It was pure selfishness on the part of the young woman, but she was young and that is normal. However, to have an attorney go after and destroy the young man in the media was unforgivable. I stopped referring myself as a feminist ever since.
Mention is made of children's SAFETY which is what this is all about, but haven't we gone too far trying to protect children .
Children today are so overprotected that it is making them neurotic, they are wrapped in cotton wool, not allowed to take even the slightest risk.
Kids used to ride their bikes to school even in primary school, now most are chauffeur driven by parents, kids used to swim in lakes and rivers, climb trees etc. Now this is deemed to be unsafe and banned.
Now we see even more laws which will further reduce the time spent with fathers who were more likely to play outdoors with children.
When these kids grow up they will be fearful and timid , exactly what the Feminist/ Marxists want , a populace easily intimidated and controlled.
I can’t understand women’s thinking not wanting the fathers in their children’s lives. They are happy to care for the children when they are together, never hear accusations of bad parenting. Mothers are happy for dads to do school drop off and pick up while they are out working, shopping etc. There is only opposition when the men leave them. Yet the Family Court do not consider the happy times children have with their dads, they are only interested the mother’s version & never do they ask the kids ‘ what do you want’?
Government, police, child safety & family court never consider the mental harm caused to the child when they are ripped from a parent they love. It’s a form of child abuse.
I had a young woman neighbour with two children, separated from the dad. Every other week they would go with their dad. Dad and mum were friends and dad would even check in on the house when she was away.
The kids grew up to be fine teenagers, well behaved and no mental scars from parents separating. If mums and dads could agree on what’s the best for the child there would be less trauma for the children.
My son basically stopped going to school by year 6.
My daughter was lucky to attend more than 50% of the time.
Everyone refused to assist me, from legal aid, the schools, the school district, the department of education and the education minister, they all created an endless cycle of referring me up the chain of command, once at the top I get referred to the beginning again.
Nobody wants to take responsibility. I suspect DHS was involved, and my children as adults confirmed this, but I was never contacted by them.
I have read quickly the proposed changes to family court act, one that stood out to me was changing the wording for breaching family court order, it was a parent can breach court order and withhold the children if it is reasonable. One reason could be if the parent did not understand the court order and did not return the child just because of a unfounded allegation against parent. As I understand it there would be no consequences or punishment.
Verity... Hell no. They are corrupt. I knew a couple of dedicated ladies that helped mothers whose children were taken by child protection authorities, police, and judges and handed over to paedophile fathers. In SA, Vic, and NSW the entire sysytem is corrupt.
I took this up with a colleague in London who told me it is generally recognised in child protection and child trafficking investigation circles that Australia is the global capital. Currently, I am trying to discover if cases I reported to the Director of Welfare forty years ago were actually acted upon.
I will not swear to accuracy on the above reports because I did not investigate them myself, but my intuition tells me they have substance. Quite apart from child abuse issues, I am aware that Australia's entire judicial/political system is corrupted beyond remedy. We will have to start all over again.
So sorry to hear your daughter is heading down the same destructive path as her mother, David. That is tragic. Re dad friendly lawyers, perhaps contact this group and see if they have any suggestions.
https://menslegalservice.org.au/. I know the key players here and they certainly are on side, although I gather they only have Brisbane lawyers at this stage in Qld.
Thanks Bettina. Your article has reminded me of the horrors I went through back in the late 1990’s when my ex-wife took my children from Canberra to Queensland against my will and there was nothing I could do about it. I lost contact with my children for many years and my relationship with my then 12 year old daughter never recovered. She is now in her mid-30’s and just ended her 10 year marriage with her husband and has stated she wants 100% custody of their two young girls. It looks as if these treacherous changes to the Family Law Act by despicable Labor will enable the return of those horrid days I endured back in the 1990’s. I feel for my son-in-law as he has a real battle ahead, and it may also threaten my future relationship with my granddaughters as my daughter blames everything bad in her life on me and already wants to deny me contact with them. :-(
Do you know any great 'Dad-friendly' Family Law lawyers on the Gold Coast?
It's a disgrace that Women only have to say they fear for their safety without any evidence and the Father is treated like a criminal without any hope of seeing his Children.
Please read the story this morning about Darcy & Chloe Conley two beautiful children who died in 60 deg heat strapped in their car seats. The mother a drug addict known to the police & child safety was responsible. The Father could not have custody of the children because the mother made a complaint of Domestic Violence.
I don't think comments are open on your spectator article yet. I will comment when I get the chance. I spent an extra seven or eight years in a dead marriage because I knew that the family law situation would simply screw me. The financial workover would have been one thing but to lose the day-to-day contact with my kids would have been soul destroying. I managed to hang on long enough to get my youngest to 16 years old before she dumped me. I can only imagine how devastating it is for Dads who are sliced out of their kids lives when the kids are young. I was lucky, in a way.
That's a tragic story, Elizabeth. But so typical of what is happening everywhere now. I am pleased it forced you to see the light.
If anyone reading this has a subscription to Spectator Australia, can you please urgently post a comment under my article, which has just been published? We need to impress on readers just how many families will be affected by these drastic changes to family law. https://www.spectator.com.au/2023/02/a-return-to-winner-takes-all-custody-battles/
Years ago, Attorney Gloria Allred used every media outlet at her disposal to destroy the reputation of a young man. The young man in question had impregnated a young woman who worked for his family restaurant. He wanted to be part of the baby's life. The mother had the opportunity to attend a prestigious university on the east coast - might have been Harvard. Allred used every tool to paint a picture of a low class individual because, Good God, he was only an employee of a family restaurant. Meanwhile, the woman was painted us this virtuous young woman with so much ahead of her. At the time in California you had to get a court order to take children out of state if the other parent opposed it. Allred argued in courts, and the media, that of course she should be allowed to take the baby with her to the east coast even thought it would deny the ability for the young man to truly interact with his child. I wrote a letter to the LA Times, which I canceled long ago, stating that if the young woman was intelligent enough to get into Harvard, she surely could get into a university in California which has many top schools, and that should be the compromise. It was pure selfishness on the part of the young woman, but she was young and that is normal. However, to have an attorney go after and destroy the young man in the media was unforgivable. I stopped referring myself as a feminist ever since.
Mention is made of children's SAFETY which is what this is all about, but haven't we gone too far trying to protect children .
Children today are so overprotected that it is making them neurotic, they are wrapped in cotton wool, not allowed to take even the slightest risk.
Kids used to ride their bikes to school even in primary school, now most are chauffeur driven by parents, kids used to swim in lakes and rivers, climb trees etc. Now this is deemed to be unsafe and banned.
Now we see even more laws which will further reduce the time spent with fathers who were more likely to play outdoors with children.
When these kids grow up they will be fearful and timid , exactly what the Feminist/ Marxists want , a populace easily intimidated and controlled.
I can’t understand women’s thinking not wanting the fathers in their children’s lives. They are happy to care for the children when they are together, never hear accusations of bad parenting. Mothers are happy for dads to do school drop off and pick up while they are out working, shopping etc. There is only opposition when the men leave them. Yet the Family Court do not consider the happy times children have with their dads, they are only interested the mother’s version & never do they ask the kids ‘ what do you want’?
Government, police, child safety & family court never consider the mental harm caused to the child when they are ripped from a parent they love. It’s a form of child abuse.
I had a young woman neighbour with two children, separated from the dad. Every other week they would go with their dad. Dad and mum were friends and dad would even check in on the house when she was away.
The kids grew up to be fine teenagers, well behaved and no mental scars from parents separating. If mums and dads could agree on what’s the best for the child there would be less trauma for the children.
Without going into too many details,
My son basically stopped going to school by year 6.
My daughter was lucky to attend more than 50% of the time.
Everyone refused to assist me, from legal aid, the schools, the school district, the department of education and the education minister, they all created an endless cycle of referring me up the chain of command, once at the top I get referred to the beginning again.
Nobody wants to take responsibility. I suspect DHS was involved, and my children as adults confirmed this, but I was never contacted by them.
There's plenty of evidence showing sexual abuse is more common by mum's boyfriend than the natural dad.
that's interesting. I haven't looked at that part.
I have read quickly the proposed changes to family court act, one that stood out to me was changing the wording for breaching family court order, it was a parent can breach court order and withhold the children if it is reasonable. One reason could be if the parent did not understand the court order and did not return the child just because of a unfounded allegation against parent. As I understand it there would be no consequences or punishment.
Verity... Hell no. They are corrupt. I knew a couple of dedicated ladies that helped mothers whose children were taken by child protection authorities, police, and judges and handed over to paedophile fathers. In SA, Vic, and NSW the entire sysytem is corrupt.
I took this up with a colleague in London who told me it is generally recognised in child protection and child trafficking investigation circles that Australia is the global capital. Currently, I am trying to discover if cases I reported to the Director of Welfare forty years ago were actually acted upon.
I will not swear to accuracy on the above reports because I did not investigate them myself, but my intuition tells me they have substance. Quite apart from child abuse issues, I am aware that Australia's entire judicial/political system is corrupted beyond remedy. We will have to start all over again.
So sorry to hear your daughter is heading down the same destructive path as her mother, David. That is tragic. Re dad friendly lawyers, perhaps contact this group and see if they have any suggestions.
https://menslegalservice.org.au/. I know the key players here and they certainly are on side, although I gather they only have Brisbane lawyers at this stage in Qld.
Thanks Bettina. Your article has reminded me of the horrors I went through back in the late 1990’s when my ex-wife took my children from Canberra to Queensland against my will and there was nothing I could do about it. I lost contact with my children for many years and my relationship with my then 12 year old daughter never recovered. She is now in her mid-30’s and just ended her 10 year marriage with her husband and has stated she wants 100% custody of their two young girls. It looks as if these treacherous changes to the Family Law Act by despicable Labor will enable the return of those horrid days I endured back in the 1990’s. I feel for my son-in-law as he has a real battle ahead, and it may also threaten my future relationship with my granddaughters as my daughter blames everything bad in her life on me and already wants to deny me contact with them. :-(
Do you know any great 'Dad-friendly' Family Law lawyers on the Gold Coast?
What are the chances of passage, Tina? Any ideas at this point?