I found myself humming 'this is the dawning of the Age of Aquarius' whilst reading this. These new radical females are about to prove an old wisdom. Power corrupts, absolute power corrupts absolutely.
The powerful Institutions are all under feminist control. All we can do it fight a guerilla style war. Harass, nip at their heels, expose a few lies and myths and hope people will discover the truth. Those evil bigots have a lust for power that would shame Stalin.
When I think of the men who have been complicit in allowing this hateful ideology to infest every level of government, media and education and I feel sick to my stomach. If enough men had shown the moral courage to refute their lies and call out their hatred and lust for entitlement this would never have grown into the monster it is today.
Morrison and others disgust me. The conservative gave up conservatism years ago. Both parties toe the feminist line and promote the feminist lies. I withdraw more into my own little world of friends, kids ,grand kids, good books, music and sunshine every day. I have cancelled all newspaper subscriptions and never watch the mainstream media any more. The endless lies and narrative promotion was poisonous to my soul.
Thanks, Bettina, for your tireless fight against the odds.
Yes, I hate the pandering of the Federal government to the feminist mob. But over the years I have seen how much worse Labor governments can be, undermining Howard's reforms to family law, and dismantling attempts to address the boys' education crisis. They are so much more frightening.
@Mark Dent. Another powerful institution has signed up for the war on men - The Catholic Church!
In a TV interview (linked below in the NY Times) Pope Francis has given his blessing to the "domestic violence" industry with this typical tactic - take one alleged "victim" and generalise from it. Note that the "victim" appears to have been in a consensual relationship with a violent man who was not the father of the children. Francis generalises the alleged "violence" as "nearly satanic", using the old "power" theme "..because it is taking advantage of the weakness of those who cannot defend themselves, can only block the blow..”, utterly denying that women have the violence of the state on their side.
Women have all the power in modern relationships, and use it. They can remove a man from the home, separate him from his children, and destroy him with just a word. I say that the woman in this instance appears have only been living with this man temporarily because she left the house, whereas if it were the marital home she would have had him removed.
I assume the police and family court in Italy are the same as everywhere else, giving state backing to any dv claim. It seems to be ubiquitous across Europe.
I did wonder whether perhaps there's a cultural explanation for this, where male violence against women is more accepted in Italy than elsewhere, so checked an online Catholic forum I participate in. I found an old thread on the subject, and various people of Italian background said empthatically "No", that the stereotype of the abusive Italian husband is wrong. They also added that Italian women are very strong minded, and don't take crap - an abusive man is likely to get whacked with the frying pan. Unfortunately, the thread is private to the group.
Pope Francis did more than use this one case to give his blessing to the dv industry. He has endorsed all their dogma, as can be seen in the article. Such as: dv is common, that it's as common in marriages as other relationships, that women (but not men) have suffered it in dangerously increased levels during the pandemic, that dv includes all the usual forms of non-physical abuse (emotional, etc..), but only woman suffer this. The only point he has missed is that dv is about "structural inequality".
From the NY Times...
------
The pope made the comment during a show broadcast Sunday on Canale 5, Italy’s top private channel, called “Francis and the Invisibles” that was intended to put a spotlight on people who were struggling in different ways.
-------
Yah... like female victims of "domestic violence" are "invisible"... We never stop hearing about them (and this applies in Italy, as mentioned in the article).
As a Catholic man this utterly infuriates me. The Church sees all the time men who have suffered female initiated divorce, who live in female dominated marriages, and in its charities it sees the large numbers of homeless men. In this TV show dedicated to the "invisibles" Francis has deliberately omitted the people who western society has most effectively silenced - men.
As well as seeing men suffering in female dominated marriages, the Church also sees women dominating parishes, charities, and management committees - and those women are typically strong minded, even "bullies", and often feminists. They are a law unto themselves, and resent male intrusion, including the clergy with their nominal "power". We regularly hear calls to "listen to women", give women more influence in the Church, etc., but lay men are utterly silent and silenced. We are just there to do the BBQs, the gardening and other physical work, and put our money (earned with work which is utterly taken for granted) in the collection plate.
I have watched all the churches come on board the feminist gravy train, selling out on family values, too nervous of offending small groups within their constituents. It is pathetic.
Like yourself, it just astonishes me that churches, which both are close to the coalface of human suffering and also morally committed to "family", can be silent to what is happening to men and families at the hands of women - including their own members.
Thanks, Mark. I know how you feel. It is so frustrating that all the men in power don't have the guts to call this out. And what about all those so called advocates for free speech on Sky News who talk about identity politics every day but don't dare touch this issue.
They infuriate me more than the feminists. Andrew Bolt and co. for all their huffing and puffing are like your classic white knights and in their own way as damaging to men and boys as the blatant haters and bigots.
But why there hasn't been one man like Lyonhjelm in the Federal cabinet or even as Prime Minister staggers me. Tony Abbott was such a let down. I thought he might be the one but he lionized that gender bigot Ms. Batty and sat there like a guilty looking and rather stunned mullet when Gillard made that hypocritical grandstanding speech about misogyny.
I would have called her out for the vile liar she was and asked her to explain how the most powerful person in the country can still play victim when it suits her.
Morrison is yet another to lick the proffered the feminist boot-it is so demoralising. The most recent federal budget directed over three billion dollars to female specific issues and not one cent to male specific issues. Frydenberg used the word women seventeen times and men once in a disparaging reference to the fact we earn more super as if this was a devious misogynistic plot we should be ashamed of and one that needs to be remedied quickly. They are beneath contempt.
James Merlino was my student in grade six and we had a wonderful relationship. He is now the deputy Premier of Victoria and the Education Minister. I wrote him an email three years ago asking him for thirty minutes of his time and no more to discuss his governments advertising campaign on domestic violence alongside the funding and deliberate attempts to make male victims disappear.
He wrote about his wonderful memories of our time together before giving me the usual spin about caring for all victims but focusing on women who are the overwhelming majority of victims. I had already pre-empted this predictable response by saying males make up one third of all victims and mentioning the high rate of violence in lesbian relationships which seemed to contradict the Respect Women campaigns. I wrote that suicide was a societal scourge which overwhelmingly affected men and boys but that issue is never called gendered or presented as anything other than an issue affecting "Australians" or our "youth". Suddenly , the need for identifying the gender most affected is no longer important The same can be said for homelessness and deaths in the workplace. Why is this the case? I said that women were a far smaller minority of victims than men are in family violence yet they shared equal billing with men whenever these issues are discusses (which isn't often.)
As always, just as his minister for prevention of Violence Against Women, Fiona Richardson did, he simply ignored my questions and comparisons with other societal issues.
Sadly he was also too busy to meet with me with Christmas approaching. I wrote back saying could he find thirty minutes at anytime during the next year and he never wrote back. A fellow chalkie told me he appeared at his school and when the kids asked him who his favourite teacher was in primary school he said , Mr. Dent. I was chuffed yet hurt to think despite that, he couldn't find thirty minutes to talk with me.
This advocating for men is an exhausting business. I have been writing letters and emails for thirty years. That's why I am in awe of your energy and thick hide. It is such a thankless task. That in itself should cause people to ask why you do it. Perhaps because you have integrity and follow the truth wherever it takes you. Defending men or simply asking for people to respect them brings nothing but abuse and hatred. Where's the pay off?
You and I can place our heads on the pillow each night and sleep. How those lying scum manage to even nap for an hour is beyond me.
@Mark Dent. Another powerful institution has signed up for the war on men - The Catholic Church!
In a TV interview (linked below in the NY Times) Pope Francis has given his blessing to the "domestic violence" industry with this typical tactic - take one alleged "victim" and generalise from it. Note that the "victim" appears to have been in a consensual relationship with a violent man who was not the father of the children. Francis generalises the alleged "violence" as "nearly satanic", using the old "power" theme "..because it is taking advantage of the weakness of those who cannot defend themselves, can only block the blow..”, utterly denying that women have the violence of the state on their side.
Women have all the power in modern relationships, and use it. They can remove a man from the home, separate him from his children, and destroy him with just a word. I say that the woman in this instance appears have only been living with this man temporarily because she left the house, whereas if it were the marital home she would have had him removed.
I assume the police and family court in Italy are the same as everywhere else, giving state backing to any dv claim. It seems to be ubiquitous across Europe.
I did wonder whether perhaps there's a cultural explanation for this, where male violence against women is more accepted in Italy than elsewhere, so checked an online Catholic forum I participate in. I found an old thread on the subject, and various people of Italian background said empthatically "No", that the stereotype of the abusive Italian husband is wrong. They also added that Italian women are very strong minded, and don't take crap - an abusive man is likely to get whacked with the frying pan. Unfortunately, the thread is private to the group.
Pope Francis did more than use this one case to give his blessing to the dv industry. He has endorsed all their dogma, as can be seen in the article. Such as: dv is common, that it's as common in marriages as other relationships, that women (but not men) have suffered it in dangerously increased levels during the pandemic, that dv includes all the usual forms of non-physical abuse (emotional, etc..), but only woman suffer this. The only point he has missed is that dv is about "structural inequality".
From the NY Times...
------
The pope made the comment during a show broadcast Sunday on Canale 5, Italy’s top private channel, called “Francis and the Invisibles” that was intended to put a spotlight on people who were struggling in different ways.
-------
Yah... like female victims of "domestic violence" are "invisible"... We never stop hearing about them (and this applies in Italy, as mentioned in the article).
As a Catholic man this utterly infuriates me. The Church sees all the time men who have suffered female initiated divorce, who live in female dominated marriages, and in its charities it sees the large numbers of homeless men. In this TV show dedicated to the "invisibles" Francis has deliberately omitted the people who western society has most effectively silenced - men.
I know that some Catholic priests and Bishops are on to what's happening to men and also how feminists exploit "victims", so it will be interesting to see whether any of them stand up to Pope Francis' ongoing feminism.
A great summation of the current state with conservative politics, Bettina! Very dissapointing about Josh Frydenberg - I still held out some hope for him. WRT conservatives, eg. Bolt, railing about identity politics and the left, while ignoring what's happening to men, I can proffer the information that my "family" focussed Christian groups have, in the last two years, focusssed their efforts on: Israel Folau and "freedom of speech", and also Senator Claire Chandler and "transgenderism in sport". They portray themselves as saving the west from the forces of evil. I have tried to interest them in men's issues, and caught some initial sympathy, but they are sticking with the safe, feel-good, "conservative" issues. As for the Christian charities, ... I think you know...
In the MRM we strongly agree with you the these are "in their own way as damaging to men and boys as the blatant haters and bigots.". Apart from the double standards, they are setting up another generation of men to volunteer for marriage, with messages about how to be a good husband, and then learning the way.
Of the issues where men are disadvantaged, but gender statistics are avoided, "homelessness" has become the most ludicrous. A few years ago, we could comfortably say "80% of the homeless are men" and get some sympathy, but the feminists, media (and Christian charities!) redefined "homelessness" so that it too is now a "woman's issue"!
A Vinnies fundraiser for "the homeless" featured a female victim. I pointed out to them that most of the homeless are men. They responded "Homelessness is a complex issue which can affect anyone". I asked them "Is domestic violence also a complex issue which can affect anyone?". No response.
Can you imagine the media meltdown if a government campaign on domestic violence featured a man as the symbol of the victims of this issue? The irony is the fact that far more men are victims of family violence than women are homelessness. The double standards are so blatant. They know we know, but simply don't give a shit. Why should they-they are holding all of the power.
Mark, I was out with my husband during the week, he had a skin cancer removed from his nose and had a huge bandage, black eyes and lots of swelling in the area where the surgery was done. We went into visit my son who is on remand waiting for his day in court after being accused of stalking his mentally unstable ex partner. ( that’s another story for another day). I was amazed at the double standards of the females at the jail reception. They joked about how I must of gave my husband a good punch in the nose for him to look the way he did. That got me thinking how if that was me looking like I had been punched in the face, my husband would of been reported to the police and investigated and more likely sharing a cell with my son. By the way ( QLD police arrest and charge first, then come up with fabricated evidence to keep men locked up). But it didn’t end there, once we left reception to enter the locked area of the prison, jokes kept coming ‘ like he should ducked instead of weaving’. I am astounded by females attitudes and double standards.
KD, that is indeed a shocking story. I too am often blown away by the fact that women feel absolutely entitled to be so derogatory about men... knowing that no one will slap them down. I'll keep your story on file and use it one day.
This sick double standard permeates every aspect of our lives yet most men are blissfully unaware of the shocking bigotry or even laugh along with those who joke about female on male violence rather than dare argue with or criticize a woman.
Who would have thought that the Neo-Marxism of the 20th century feminists would have morphed in the self-privileged whiny snowflakes we are now seeing at the forefront of the feminist politics and societal disruption. These women and their enablers are a clear and present danger to our modern society.
“our watch” is like any other apex predator in the Feminist Industrial Complex... shrilling to increase funding but not actually trying to achieve any measurable results as this would definitely kick their sacred cash-cow over
I do feel that is a very funny aspect of their campaign... that they can't afford to be too successful and put themselves out of business. Hence they constantly expand the definition of violence to include, for instance, coercive control, even though everyone knows this should mean more female perpetrators than male ones. But shaming male victims is a very good means of silencing them... and so the system rolls on.
As you and Robert Brockway said in today's interview, you've got to concede the effectiveness of the "juggernaut". "Stop it at the Start" was woke me up to the feminist agenda, wheras until then I'd just thought that men being discriminated against was "The way things are". I think I was not alone, and since 2015 we've had multiple, credible attempts to counter the feminist "equality" narrative on dv, particularly your own, and, as you mention, David Lyonhjelm (I can spell it now, without looking it up!). You mention surveys which show a sizable minority of the population not buying it. But now, in 2021, the feminists, such as Our Watch, have stared it down and stayed on message, and keep getting increasing funding and regular op-eds. White Ribbon went out of business, and are back with a vengeance. I suspect the window of opportunity to catch the lies has passed. It was probably mainstream Australia who are to blame, by turning a blind eye.
Not just mainstream Australia but our captured mainstream media which now allows the feminist narrative to absolutely dominate. Look at The Australian where I published most of my really significant articles about men's issues. The current batch of editors won't let me near the paper and would never allow such views to be expressed anymore. It is tragic.
Interesting inside info on The Australian, Bettina. I am a long term subscriber, and generally respect their editorial balance. However, now that you point it out, I can see in the last couple of years a veering to the huffing and puffing conservatism of Bolt, etc., while going soft on feminism. I particularly recall a strong op-ed by one of their regulars which excoriated the ABC for a litany of "progressive" issues - indigineous issues, climate change, George Pell, etc, but not one mention of the issue which enters almost every news report - ie. feminism (the wage gap, dv, women in authority, blah... blah). The 1000+ comments praised the article and condemned the ABC, but they also included no mention of feminism. I added a comment pointing out that the otherwise great article had ommitted "feminism" - it wasn't published.
You had a great series of articles in The Australian in 2017 (and 2018?), which addressed serious issues, and earlier ones calling out the dv lies. What a shame that this wouldn't happen now.
Mark, there are a huge number of females who have sons and brothers who support men. My age group 60+ are sick and tired of hearing about so called feminists, they wouldn’t know the meaning of feminist. My mum’s generation were tough resilient women, they took on many roles not just stay home Mum’s, they were true survivors in every sense of the word. Feminists today cry like babies, lie to get what they want and destroy decent men along the way. It makes my skin crawl also. Don’t worry the wimpy men who support these so-called wanna be feminists are outnumbered by real tough females who are true survivors of tough times.
Yes, but very few of the older generation of women are speaking out in public. Older women often approach me in supermarkets telling me they agree with what I am doing but they uniformly say they wouldn't care voice their concerns. I wish I could work out how we can get that group to become active.
I've also had older women whisper to me, for example, "men are getting a hard time", or "We need strong men", but I've also had older women in the family pile onto me if I mention men's issues. These women dominate the family narrative. They are very strong with their words and matriarchal authority. While they lash out at the "patriarchy", the wage gap, etc..., hubby just sits dutifully in his place, and puts on the "yes, it's so bad look". The other women either nod along, or are too scared to stand up for their men.
James, thanks so much for your thoughtful, interesting comments. I was intrigued by your observations about gay men's indifference to the plight of heterosexual men. I had never thought about that before. It's a sad thought that amongst the men in power selling out other men, are gay guys who are far more interested in pandering to their feminist friends. There's long been an alliance between women and gay men, with many strong friendships. It's logical that these gay guys are being recruited to work for the feminist goals. I was also taken by your comment that you simply had no idea what was happening to ordinary blokes. That's a sad commentary on how effectively the feminists have controlled the media coverage so that the story of the injustice men are experiencing is never told. And when I was getting some cut-through in broadcasting what was going on, they determined to take me out.
Thanks for reaching out to me. Love to talk to you in more detail. Can you send me an email through my website, please - https://www.bettinaarndt.com.au/contact/
Sorry I missed your private message. It probably ended up in junk. I have received hundreds of emails this week and am just sorting through them. Please try again with just a brief description of who you are so it doesn't go back into junk.
Hi Bettina,
I found myself humming 'this is the dawning of the Age of Aquarius' whilst reading this. These new radical females are about to prove an old wisdom. Power corrupts, absolute power corrupts absolutely.
Good thought. Perhaps that has already happened!
The powerful Institutions are all under feminist control. All we can do it fight a guerilla style war. Harass, nip at their heels, expose a few lies and myths and hope people will discover the truth. Those evil bigots have a lust for power that would shame Stalin.
When I think of the men who have been complicit in allowing this hateful ideology to infest every level of government, media and education and I feel sick to my stomach. If enough men had shown the moral courage to refute their lies and call out their hatred and lust for entitlement this would never have grown into the monster it is today.
Morrison and others disgust me. The conservative gave up conservatism years ago. Both parties toe the feminist line and promote the feminist lies. I withdraw more into my own little world of friends, kids ,grand kids, good books, music and sunshine every day. I have cancelled all newspaper subscriptions and never watch the mainstream media any more. The endless lies and narrative promotion was poisonous to my soul.
Thanks, Bettina, for your tireless fight against the odds.
Yes, I hate the pandering of the Federal government to the feminist mob. But over the years I have seen how much worse Labor governments can be, undermining Howard's reforms to family law, and dismantling attempts to address the boys' education crisis. They are so much more frightening.
@Mark Dent. Another powerful institution has signed up for the war on men - The Catholic Church!
In a TV interview (linked below in the NY Times) Pope Francis has given his blessing to the "domestic violence" industry with this typical tactic - take one alleged "victim" and generalise from it. Note that the "victim" appears to have been in a consensual relationship with a violent man who was not the father of the children. Francis generalises the alleged "violence" as "nearly satanic", using the old "power" theme "..because it is taking advantage of the weakness of those who cannot defend themselves, can only block the blow..”, utterly denying that women have the violence of the state on their side.
Women have all the power in modern relationships, and use it. They can remove a man from the home, separate him from his children, and destroy him with just a word. I say that the woman in this instance appears have only been living with this man temporarily because she left the house, whereas if it were the marital home she would have had him removed.
I assume the police and family court in Italy are the same as everywhere else, giving state backing to any dv claim. It seems to be ubiquitous across Europe.
I did wonder whether perhaps there's a cultural explanation for this, where male violence against women is more accepted in Italy than elsewhere, so checked an online Catholic forum I participate in. I found an old thread on the subject, and various people of Italian background said empthatically "No", that the stereotype of the abusive Italian husband is wrong. They also added that Italian women are very strong minded, and don't take crap - an abusive man is likely to get whacked with the frying pan. Unfortunately, the thread is private to the group.
Pope Francis did more than use this one case to give his blessing to the dv industry. He has endorsed all their dogma, as can be seen in the article. Such as: dv is common, that it's as common in marriages as other relationships, that women (but not men) have suffered it in dangerously increased levels during the pandemic, that dv includes all the usual forms of non-physical abuse (emotional, etc..), but only woman suffer this. The only point he has missed is that dv is about "structural inequality".
From the NY Times...
------
The pope made the comment during a show broadcast Sunday on Canale 5, Italy’s top private channel, called “Francis and the Invisibles” that was intended to put a spotlight on people who were struggling in different ways.
-------
Yah... like female victims of "domestic violence" are "invisible"... We never stop hearing about them (and this applies in Italy, as mentioned in the article).
As a Catholic man this utterly infuriates me. The Church sees all the time men who have suffered female initiated divorce, who live in female dominated marriages, and in its charities it sees the large numbers of homeless men. In this TV show dedicated to the "invisibles" Francis has deliberately omitted the people who western society has most effectively silenced - men.
https://www.nytimes.com/2021/12/20/world/europe/pope-domestic-violence-almost-satanic.html
As well as seeing men suffering in female dominated marriages, the Church also sees women dominating parishes, charities, and management committees - and those women are typically strong minded, even "bullies", and often feminists. They are a law unto themselves, and resent male intrusion, including the clergy with their nominal "power". We regularly hear calls to "listen to women", give women more influence in the Church, etc., but lay men are utterly silent and silenced. We are just there to do the BBQs, the gardening and other physical work, and put our money (earned with work which is utterly taken for granted) in the collection plate.
I have watched all the churches come on board the feminist gravy train, selling out on family values, too nervous of offending small groups within their constituents. It is pathetic.
Tragic and wrong, but, sadly, not surprising.
Like yourself, it just astonishes me that churches, which both are close to the coalface of human suffering and also morally committed to "family", can be silent to what is happening to men and families at the hands of women - including their own members.
Thanks, Mark. I know how you feel. It is so frustrating that all the men in power don't have the guts to call this out. And what about all those so called advocates for free speech on Sky News who talk about identity politics every day but don't dare touch this issue.
They infuriate me more than the feminists. Andrew Bolt and co. for all their huffing and puffing are like your classic white knights and in their own way as damaging to men and boys as the blatant haters and bigots.
But why there hasn't been one man like Lyonhjelm in the Federal cabinet or even as Prime Minister staggers me. Tony Abbott was such a let down. I thought he might be the one but he lionized that gender bigot Ms. Batty and sat there like a guilty looking and rather stunned mullet when Gillard made that hypocritical grandstanding speech about misogyny.
I would have called her out for the vile liar she was and asked her to explain how the most powerful person in the country can still play victim when it suits her.
Morrison is yet another to lick the proffered the feminist boot-it is so demoralising. The most recent federal budget directed over three billion dollars to female specific issues and not one cent to male specific issues. Frydenberg used the word women seventeen times and men once in a disparaging reference to the fact we earn more super as if this was a devious misogynistic plot we should be ashamed of and one that needs to be remedied quickly. They are beneath contempt.
James Merlino was my student in grade six and we had a wonderful relationship. He is now the deputy Premier of Victoria and the Education Minister. I wrote him an email three years ago asking him for thirty minutes of his time and no more to discuss his governments advertising campaign on domestic violence alongside the funding and deliberate attempts to make male victims disappear.
He wrote about his wonderful memories of our time together before giving me the usual spin about caring for all victims but focusing on women who are the overwhelming majority of victims. I had already pre-empted this predictable response by saying males make up one third of all victims and mentioning the high rate of violence in lesbian relationships which seemed to contradict the Respect Women campaigns. I wrote that suicide was a societal scourge which overwhelmingly affected men and boys but that issue is never called gendered or presented as anything other than an issue affecting "Australians" or our "youth". Suddenly , the need for identifying the gender most affected is no longer important The same can be said for homelessness and deaths in the workplace. Why is this the case? I said that women were a far smaller minority of victims than men are in family violence yet they shared equal billing with men whenever these issues are discusses (which isn't often.)
As always, just as his minister for prevention of Violence Against Women, Fiona Richardson did, he simply ignored my questions and comparisons with other societal issues.
Sadly he was also too busy to meet with me with Christmas approaching. I wrote back saying could he find thirty minutes at anytime during the next year and he never wrote back. A fellow chalkie told me he appeared at his school and when the kids asked him who his favourite teacher was in primary school he said , Mr. Dent. I was chuffed yet hurt to think despite that, he couldn't find thirty minutes to talk with me.
This advocating for men is an exhausting business. I have been writing letters and emails for thirty years. That's why I am in awe of your energy and thick hide. It is such a thankless task. That in itself should cause people to ask why you do it. Perhaps because you have integrity and follow the truth wherever it takes you. Defending men or simply asking for people to respect them brings nothing but abuse and hatred. Where's the pay off?
You and I can place our heads on the pillow each night and sleep. How those lying scum manage to even nap for an hour is beyond me.
Cheers, Bettina.
@Mark Dent. Another powerful institution has signed up for the war on men - The Catholic Church!
In a TV interview (linked below in the NY Times) Pope Francis has given his blessing to the "domestic violence" industry with this typical tactic - take one alleged "victim" and generalise from it. Note that the "victim" appears to have been in a consensual relationship with a violent man who was not the father of the children. Francis generalises the alleged "violence" as "nearly satanic", using the old "power" theme "..because it is taking advantage of the weakness of those who cannot defend themselves, can only block the blow..”, utterly denying that women have the violence of the state on their side.
Women have all the power in modern relationships, and use it. They can remove a man from the home, separate him from his children, and destroy him with just a word. I say that the woman in this instance appears have only been living with this man temporarily because she left the house, whereas if it were the marital home she would have had him removed.
I assume the police and family court in Italy are the same as everywhere else, giving state backing to any dv claim. It seems to be ubiquitous across Europe.
I did wonder whether perhaps there's a cultural explanation for this, where male violence against women is more accepted in Italy than elsewhere, so checked an online Catholic forum I participate in. I found an old thread on the subject, and various people of Italian background said empthatically "No", that the stereotype of the abusive Italian husband is wrong. They also added that Italian women are very strong minded, and don't take crap - an abusive man is likely to get whacked with the frying pan. Unfortunately, the thread is private to the group.
Pope Francis did more than use this one case to give his blessing to the dv industry. He has endorsed all their dogma, as can be seen in the article. Such as: dv is common, that it's as common in marriages as other relationships, that women (but not men) have suffered it in dangerously increased levels during the pandemic, that dv includes all the usual forms of non-physical abuse (emotional, etc..), but only woman suffer this. The only point he has missed is that dv is about "structural inequality".
From the NY Times...
------
The pope made the comment during a show broadcast Sunday on Canale 5, Italy’s top private channel, called “Francis and the Invisibles” that was intended to put a spotlight on people who were struggling in different ways.
-------
Yah... like female victims of "domestic violence" are "invisible"... We never stop hearing about them (and this applies in Italy, as mentioned in the article).
As a Catholic man this utterly infuriates me. The Church sees all the time men who have suffered female initiated divorce, who live in female dominated marriages, and in its charities it sees the large numbers of homeless men. In this TV show dedicated to the "invisibles" Francis has deliberately omitted the people who western society has most effectively silenced - men.
https://www.nytimes.com/2021/12/20/world/europe/pope-domestic-violence-almost-satanic.html
I know that some Catholic priests and Bishops are on to what's happening to men and also how feminists exploit "victims", so it will be interesting to see whether any of them stand up to Pope Francis' ongoing feminism.
A great summation of the current state with conservative politics, Bettina! Very dissapointing about Josh Frydenberg - I still held out some hope for him. WRT conservatives, eg. Bolt, railing about identity politics and the left, while ignoring what's happening to men, I can proffer the information that my "family" focussed Christian groups have, in the last two years, focusssed their efforts on: Israel Folau and "freedom of speech", and also Senator Claire Chandler and "transgenderism in sport". They portray themselves as saving the west from the forces of evil. I have tried to interest them in men's issues, and caught some initial sympathy, but they are sticking with the safe, feel-good, "conservative" issues. As for the Christian charities, ... I think you know...
In the MRM we strongly agree with you the these are "in their own way as damaging to men and boys as the blatant haters and bigots.". Apart from the double standards, they are setting up another generation of men to volunteer for marriage, with messages about how to be a good husband, and then learning the way.
Of the issues where men are disadvantaged, but gender statistics are avoided, "homelessness" has become the most ludicrous. A few years ago, we could comfortably say "80% of the homeless are men" and get some sympathy, but the feminists, media (and Christian charities!) redefined "homelessness" so that it too is now a "woman's issue"!
A Vinnies fundraiser for "the homeless" featured a female victim. I pointed out to them that most of the homeless are men. They responded "Homelessness is a complex issue which can affect anyone". I asked them "Is domestic violence also a complex issue which can affect anyone?". No response.
Can you imagine the media meltdown if a government campaign on domestic violence featured a man as the symbol of the victims of this issue? The irony is the fact that far more men are victims of family violence than women are homelessness. The double standards are so blatant. They know we know, but simply don't give a shit. Why should they-they are holding all of the power.
Mark, I was out with my husband during the week, he had a skin cancer removed from his nose and had a huge bandage, black eyes and lots of swelling in the area where the surgery was done. We went into visit my son who is on remand waiting for his day in court after being accused of stalking his mentally unstable ex partner. ( that’s another story for another day). I was amazed at the double standards of the females at the jail reception. They joked about how I must of gave my husband a good punch in the nose for him to look the way he did. That got me thinking how if that was me looking like I had been punched in the face, my husband would of been reported to the police and investigated and more likely sharing a cell with my son. By the way ( QLD police arrest and charge first, then come up with fabricated evidence to keep men locked up). But it didn’t end there, once we left reception to enter the locked area of the prison, jokes kept coming ‘ like he should ducked instead of weaving’. I am astounded by females attitudes and double standards.
KD, that is indeed a shocking story. I too am often blown away by the fact that women feel absolutely entitled to be so derogatory about men... knowing that no one will slap them down. I'll keep your story on file and use it one day.
This sick double standard permeates every aspect of our lives yet most men are blissfully unaware of the shocking bigotry or even laugh along with those who joke about female on male violence rather than dare argue with or criticize a woman.
Who would have thought that the Neo-Marxism of the 20th century feminists would have morphed in the self-privileged whiny snowflakes we are now seeing at the forefront of the feminist politics and societal disruption. These women and their enablers are a clear and present danger to our modern society.
“our watch” is like any other apex predator in the Feminist Industrial Complex... shrilling to increase funding but not actually trying to achieve any measurable results as this would definitely kick their sacred cash-cow over
I do feel that is a very funny aspect of their campaign... that they can't afford to be too successful and put themselves out of business. Hence they constantly expand the definition of violence to include, for instance, coercive control, even though everyone knows this should mean more female perpetrators than male ones. But shaming male victims is a very good means of silencing them... and so the system rolls on.
As you and Robert Brockway said in today's interview, you've got to concede the effectiveness of the "juggernaut". "Stop it at the Start" was woke me up to the feminist agenda, wheras until then I'd just thought that men being discriminated against was "The way things are". I think I was not alone, and since 2015 we've had multiple, credible attempts to counter the feminist "equality" narrative on dv, particularly your own, and, as you mention, David Lyonhjelm (I can spell it now, without looking it up!). You mention surveys which show a sizable minority of the population not buying it. But now, in 2021, the feminists, such as Our Watch, have stared it down and stayed on message, and keep getting increasing funding and regular op-eds. White Ribbon went out of business, and are back with a vengeance. I suspect the window of opportunity to catch the lies has passed. It was probably mainstream Australia who are to blame, by turning a blind eye.
Not just mainstream Australia but our captured mainstream media which now allows the feminist narrative to absolutely dominate. Look at The Australian where I published most of my really significant articles about men's issues. The current batch of editors won't let me near the paper and would never allow such views to be expressed anymore. It is tragic.
Interesting inside info on The Australian, Bettina. I am a long term subscriber, and generally respect their editorial balance. However, now that you point it out, I can see in the last couple of years a veering to the huffing and puffing conservatism of Bolt, etc., while going soft on feminism. I particularly recall a strong op-ed by one of their regulars which excoriated the ABC for a litany of "progressive" issues - indigineous issues, climate change, George Pell, etc, but not one mention of the issue which enters almost every news report - ie. feminism (the wage gap, dv, women in authority, blah... blah). The 1000+ comments praised the article and condemned the ABC, but they also included no mention of feminism. I added a comment pointing out that the otherwise great article had ommitted "feminism" - it wasn't published.
You had a great series of articles in The Australian in 2017 (and 2018?), which addressed serious issues, and earlier ones calling out the dv lies. What a shame that this wouldn't happen now.
Cowards everywhere you turn. It makes my skin crawl. They'd betray their own brothers to win the approval of the feminists.
Mark, there are a huge number of females who have sons and brothers who support men. My age group 60+ are sick and tired of hearing about so called feminists, they wouldn’t know the meaning of feminist. My mum’s generation were tough resilient women, they took on many roles not just stay home Mum’s, they were true survivors in every sense of the word. Feminists today cry like babies, lie to get what they want and destroy decent men along the way. It makes my skin crawl also. Don’t worry the wimpy men who support these so-called wanna be feminists are outnumbered by real tough females who are true survivors of tough times.
Yes, but very few of the older generation of women are speaking out in public. Older women often approach me in supermarkets telling me they agree with what I am doing but they uniformly say they wouldn't care voice their concerns. I wish I could work out how we can get that group to become active.
I've also had older women whisper to me, for example, "men are getting a hard time", or "We need strong men", but I've also had older women in the family pile onto me if I mention men's issues. These women dominate the family narrative. They are very strong with their words and matriarchal authority. While they lash out at the "patriarchy", the wage gap, etc..., hubby just sits dutifully in his place, and puts on the "yes, it's so bad look". The other women either nod along, or are too scared to stand up for their men.
Just keep getting the message out, you are inspiring many women with sons
James, thanks so much for your thoughtful, interesting comments. I was intrigued by your observations about gay men's indifference to the plight of heterosexual men. I had never thought about that before. It's a sad thought that amongst the men in power selling out other men, are gay guys who are far more interested in pandering to their feminist friends. There's long been an alliance between women and gay men, with many strong friendships. It's logical that these gay guys are being recruited to work for the feminist goals. I was also taken by your comment that you simply had no idea what was happening to ordinary blokes. That's a sad commentary on how effectively the feminists have controlled the media coverage so that the story of the injustice men are experiencing is never told. And when I was getting some cut-through in broadcasting what was going on, they determined to take me out.
Thanks for reaching out to me. Love to talk to you in more detail. Can you send me an email through my website, please - https://www.bettinaarndt.com.au/contact/
Sorry I missed your private message. It probably ended up in junk. I have received hundreds of emails this week and am just sorting through them. Please try again with just a brief description of who you are so it doesn't go back into junk.